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Re: Ask A High Priestess
By: Moderator / Knowledgeable
Post # 97

Being a High Priest of Priestess is more than just leading a Esbat or a Sabbat ritual. One acts in the roles that clergy in any church would also perform.

Some expected duties of the High Priest or High Priestess in any of the covens in my Tradition include meeting with prospective members and discussing with them what they are looking for and what my coven might have to offer.

It is also the responsibility of the High Priest and High Priestess to create a sound training program and then to work with students of varying degrees of experience to help them reach the goals they have set for themselves. We always taught in a one-on-one method so that each student received personal attention. But that meant you were teaching at least one student almost every day of the week.

Another responsibility, and one over looked is acting as a counselor for members of the coven when they are struggling with either mundane or spiritual issues. This can be a very difficult part of holding clergy position in any group. It's not only the usual doubts and difficulties. It is also the phone call at 1AM from a covener stranded on the side of the road. It is sitting at the bedside of a 21-year-old girl who has just been diagnosed with leukemia. It is helping a covener get through the funeral of her 18 year old brother who was killed in a car crash. It is helping a suicidal person deal with the grief of having their wife abandon them.

As a High Priest or Priestess, we are responsible for marking important passages in our covener's lives. We preside over handfastings and over life partings. As clergy we should be providing the same marriage counseling and grief work as any Christian pastor or Jewish rabbi. So I always made it a point to hold several sessions with those I was joining in a handfasting.

The High Priest and High Priestess also stand as image of the God and Goddess. Their lives are no longer private, and they are held to a higher standard by those around them. When they have troubles, who is there to counsel them? Often there is no one to whom they can turn lest someone abuse their moment of weakness.

I often found that I would be doing something nearly every single day for the benefit of those in my coven; whether it be teaching, counseling, meeting new people, or constructing rituals. Burnout is a serious problem among coven leaders as they cannot get very far away from their duties and free time becomes extremely precious. In addition, one has to make time for one's personal spiritual practices such as meditation or private workings. Otherwise you find yourself starting to feel very distanced from your spirituality.


If you are not prepared for the hard work and demands on your time that being a High Priest or High Priestess embodies it will eat up your life. It is not a position to be taken lightly. Anyone thinking of assuming it should think long and hard about what it demands and what they are able to give and how they will manage to balance the demands of the position with all of the other demands they face such as work, school and family.

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Post # 98
hi man, i dont know what to believe, forgive my grammar. i live in Canada on the east coast. my mother, my grandmothers, and my great grandmothers were medicine women which is like witches in my culture. anyways, i dont feel normal and i dont know why but i prefer to be depressed, i love black and bits of red in my clothing, whats weird is its like i have visions but i think of stuff like random stuff and sure enough they become relevant,

about 5 months ago i dated a witch, i believe her cause she tamed animals and i know i have wiccan potential, i love cutting myself to draw blood and ease my pain, please if there is a way to draw out my inner wiccan than tell me.
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Re: Ask A High Priestess
By: / Knowledgeable
Post # 99

Paul, seek help. Self-harm is not healthy.

Wicca is not a thing that people 'draw out' in the sense you describe. It is a religion, created in the 20th Century. It may draw elements from some other traditions, but it is its own separate religion. A person may feel drawn to a religion, but a person is not innately something different because of what they choose to believe, philosophically.

Please seek help. You clearly have depression among other issues which a mental health professional can help you with overcoming.

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Re: Ask A High Priestess
By: Moderator / Knowledgeable
Post # 100

There is no such thing as an "inner Wiccan". Wicca is a religion which one chooses to follow as a conscious decision. It is not something to be drawn out of you. You might want to read the pinned post here in the Wicca Forum on What Wicca Is and Is Not.

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Post # 101
Hi,well I do not know much since i am a beginner so what can I do to learn?
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Re: Ask A High Priestess
By: Moderator / Knowledgeable
Post # 102

If you're talking about learning more about Wicca then I would suggest starting with the pinned posts here in the Wicca Forum. I would also check through the threads in the Wicca Basics thread for one called Beginner Resources which lists both books and websites that are recommended.

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Re: Ask A High Priestess
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Post # 103

Do the high priest and priestess have to be relatives or can they be just friends in a real life coven?

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Re: Ask A High Priestess
By: Moderator / Knowledgeable
Post # 104

Often the High Priest and the High Priestess are a committed couple, but there is no reason that they have to be so. Two friends could easily hold those positions and do just fine.

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Post # 105
Hi! I'm very new to Wicca and I've loved learning about it thus far. I was wondering if you know if any books I could read or other learning materials a newcomer like me could use. It's very hard for me to meet with Wiccans in the real world due to where I live, so any help would be great! thanks!
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Re: Ask A High Priestess
By: Moderator / Knowledgeable
Post # 106

Since you're just starting out here are the books that I'd suggest to get you going:

"Wicca: A Year and a Day" by Timothy Roderick

"Wicca For Beginners" by Thea Sabin

"Circle Round" by Starhawk

"The Elements of Ritual" by Deborah Lipp

"The Witches' God" and "The Witches' Goddess" by Stewart and Janet Farrar

Hope you find these helpful.

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