Love Me or Die

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SpellsLove  ► Attraction  ► Love Me or Die
If you want a man to love you and he absolutely refuses, you can goofer him to love you.
You will need the following items for this spell:

  • His hair
  • Your hair
  • A small John the Conqueror root
  • Goofer Dust (or Graveyard Dirt)
  • Love Me sachet powder
  • A piece of brown paper
  • A waterproof ink pen that writes red
  • A waterproof ink pen that writes black
  • A brand new spool of red sewing thread
  • A red flannel bag
  • A sharp pen knife

Casting Instructions for 'Love Me or Die'

On the paper, write his full name 7 times in black ink, then rotate the paper and write “ love me or die” over his name 7 times in red ink, crossing it and covering it. Set the paper aside. Use the pen knife to carve a slit-shaped hole in the root and wedge your hair and his hair in there together. Then pack the slit tight with a mixture of Goofer Dust and Love Me sachet powder.

Thoroughly wet the written-on paper with your urine and wrap it around the root, pressing and forming it as you would paper mache, to keep the hairs and powders inside. While it is still wet, wrap it up in the red thread, going round and around very neatly, like a ball of twine, until the paper is entirely covered. When you are done, tie the thread off with seven knots and leave a length of thread to hang it from. You can double or triple the hanging-thread for strength, and finish it with a loop for your finger.

Carry the prepared root in a red flannel bag and moisten it with your urine when needed. Hold it by its hanging-thread to "operate" it, swinging it back and forth or round and around toward you as you call the man's name, to draw him to you. Get a rhythm going, and say his name, like this, over and over: "First Name, Last Name, love me or die; First Name, Last Name, love me or die; First Name, Last Name, love me or die."

You do this and the man will either love you or he'll get real sick. If he gets sick, don't let up; just keep your urine wet on that thing, just keep working with it. That's the way you get him, you weaken him. When he is about finished, you can nurse him back to health. Then he's all yours. I recommend that anyone who undertakes making such a "Love Me or Die" hand should be prepared to properly dispose of it if it is successful, or you may always have a sickly man on your hands.

The making of this love spell is an exercise in working with pairs of opposites: The Love powder is mixed with Goofer Dust. The John root is male and you cut a slit-like hole in it to make him less strong and masculine. You mix your hair and his hair up together, so he will be as obsessed as you are. You offer him the choice "Love me or die." When he gets sick, you nurse him back to health. The whole thing is about mixing opposing pairs -- male/female, love/death, sickness/health, him/you -- into one mess.

By the way, the specific shape of this mojo hand -- a round object wound around with thread or string -- is sometimes referred to as a Jack or Jack ball, although my informant did not call it by that name. Most Jacks, hung from their strings, are used for divination, like pendulums, but some are carried in the pocket or in a bag, as a hand.

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Last edited on May 01, 2018
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Is it necessary to follow all the ingredients exactly? E.g. What if I don't use a red flannel bag but a red cotton one?

May 09, 2021
S Connolly says that following spells and rituals exactly as written is lazy in her opinion. Example: she says “a demon will show up in the night time the same way he will show up in the daytime.” It’s all in your intentions.

May 09, 2021
While I agree with the idea you don't have to follow a ritual exactly, but calling it lazy seems unnecessarily cruel. [also, I thought S Connolly wrote fiction and not magick guides] If you don't have all the ingredients, or you feel like adding/removing items, do what feels right to you. Spells are like cooking, you could follow a recipe, or make yours up, some things work for you, some won't. No harm in trying.

The whole idea of writing our own spells, needs inspiration to start. At seventeen when I first began writing my own spells I had been reading ones and practicing them previously written for three years. In this way one learns what to substitute for what, what represents love, or why when one practices a separation spell utilizing candles, that they are separated, what they are supposed to represent. For starters in the craft many do not recommend casting spells or spellbooks, but we have to start somewhere. You can only learn about raising and directing energy so long before it itself becomes an end. The energy needs go somewhere before grounding if one is to achieve results. While following a spell as written can be viewed as lazy it can very much as well be viewed as entirely elaborate. Prompting us to put in effort and find, track down, and utilize the ingredients listed. While I love writing my own spells and always do and have done so for over fifteen years, I did use the spells of others as a blueprint. Many pagan practitioners back in the early nineties did.

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