To Get a Lover Back

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Like the title says: use this spell to get a lover back. Spell takes time to work, should be cast Friday in the waxing phase of the moon.

Casting Instructions for 'To Get a Lover Back'

You will need the following items for this spell:

  • 1 Red Candle
  • 1 Handful of Dried Beans
  • 1 Small Heat Resistant Bowl or small Cauldron
You will need the following items for this spell:

  • 1 Red Candle
  • 1 Handful of Dried Beans
  • 1 Small Heat Resistant Bowl or small Cauldron

Remember all the good times you and your lover had together, how happy you were, and how happy you both will be again. When ready, light the red candle, feel the warm of your love together in the glow of the flame.

Clasp the beans in your power [writing] hand and feel them being filled with those feelings. Put them in the bowl and move it clockwise above the flame. Say:

"Love that was, please recover. Let us be what we were to one another. As these beans warm, so too will your heart. Return to me, so mote it be".

Remember to put in some effort, talk with your ex, be nice to them, don't push the issue though. This spell might take a while to work, since you're fighting against their won free will.


Added to on Sep 18, 2012
Last edited on Nov 17, 2019
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So, i was wondering... Who hurt you?

Oct 30, 2019
Are you referring to me? Lol, I posted this years ago because I get tons of requests for love spells, so I posted a bunch to go ''here, pick one'' nobody hurt me, and I've never wanted to get back with an ex, and am perfectly happy right now. Why do you ask?

How often do I have to do this and which moon phases is best for this spell to be done if not friday?

Apr 02, 2020
New to full if you are pulling energy towards you. Only once works, but if you wish to repeat the spell, each day at the same time until the candle burns out completely [I would start it on the new moon, burn the candle for 5 minutes, then snuff it out, repeat until the full moon and on the full moon, let the candle burn out]

Hi Nekoshema, How are you? Hope you are fine. May I ask, is it that I will let the candle continue to burn till it cease off by itself? How do I discard the candle? Any particular instructions? Also, may I ask, can the dry beans be ''Red Beans''. What should I do with it after i have warm it above the candle? Your advise is greatly appreciated, thank you.

Apr 02, 2020
Hello, cyn.m, I'm well, hope you are as well ^_^ in answer to your questions, I would use a small red candle [say a tea light or one of those the size of you thumb] You don't need it to burn out, but since you're charging the candle with love energy [specifically for your ex to return] I would only use the candle for love spells. So, either use a small candle so it will burn out quickly, or recast over several nights. [This would add more energy to the spell] You can use red beans, that's what I would use personally. Once you are done with the beans, I would place them in a pink drawstring bag and carry them with you as a charm. After a moon cycle [whether you see results or not] toss the bag with the beans into some running water, toss it into a fire, or bury it under an apple tree. Water is an emotional element and the rushing water will bring change [perfect if this spell didn't work for you and you want to wash away the past] Fire is an element of passion [the flames will bring love quickly] earth is stable and takes longer [I would chose this if you got back together and wish to build a strong foundation] An apple tree is symbolic of love.

Apr 29, 2020
Hi Nekoshema, Thank you for your response. How are you and I hope you are good. I just realised that you had replied me on Apr 02, 2020.... hope it is not already too late for me... sign... :( There was a sudden change and things seems to got bad, we are not really in much conversation now... As due the lock down, I can't get any love candle on by by this friday, which i believe is a good moon phase for me. Could the tea red candle still work? Is it fine to bury just under the earth? As I do not have apple tree around my area... My sincere apologies for so much questions, and I hope to hear from you soon. Please take care and stay safe. Best regards Cyn.M

May 02, 2020
Hi Nekoshema, Have not hear from you. Are you ok? Hope you are fine. Please stay safe and take care. Best Regards Cyn.M

May 02, 2020
Sorry, I didn't see your response. I'm well. I hope you're doing well too. Any candle works, if you don't have an apple tree that's fine too [apple is a love symbol that's all] Because of the quarantine, you might wish to wait until you can be in contact with them [unless you've been staying in touch] The full moon is coming up, so you could cast it then. Plus, yesterday was Beltane, so there's love energy right now which could help with the casting.

May 04, 2020
So great to hear from you, Nekoshema. Yes, I am good too. Thank you for your advise. Yes, we are in contact but in whatsapp as we are currently in 2 different countries. Yesterday 4th May, suddenly He had long hours of text with me, telling me, he missed me but we did not conclude a topic on the reunion. I guess I have missed the good day (Beltane), have i? My side here is going to be 5th May in another hour. If I have missed Beltane, can i do it on Flower Moon which is this coming Thursday, 7th May 2020? Please advise, thank you. Please take care and stay safe.

Jul 03, 2020
Hello cyn.m did it worked for you?

Has this worked for anyone. I’m worried that his free will will make this impossible

Does this work even though my ex doesn't talk to me anymore? or we even barely see each other

May 30, 2022
This spell will help you get them back but it won't be the only solution. You would need to reach out to them and start rebuilding your relationship too.

May 30, 2022
This spell can work HOWEVER it isn't a guarantee. This is true of any working spell. There is no spell that works 100% of the time, every time, for every person. This is a simple spell to use if you just broke up. If it was recent and a mutual breakup or you're still close friends with this person, this spell should work for you. If you cheated, they left you for someone else or it's been years of zero contact, you will need a more potent spell for it to work. If a spell is something like ''light a candle and say a chant'' then the situation should be a simple one. If the spell requires more items, time, and effort, it's because you need to build a ton of energy to overcome the situation. Given your situation, this spell will most likely not work for you. You would need a contact me spell, forgiveness spell, a honey jar and then a love spell.

What type of beans do I use

Can you mix the variety of beans in the casting? And what would you suggest - Tonka beans would be good but? Also you mention a pink charm bag would red work ?

Nov 02, 2023
I got this spell back in high school and it never said the type of beans. I'd argue pink or red as they have love and romance energy to them. Tonka works too. You can pick one or a mix. Red is the colour of passionate love, while pink is romantic. You can pick either one, both work in love spells.

I know that this is an older post, but I have a question, if you wouldn’t mind answering it Nekoshema. I still love my ex, and she broke up with me because she felt like she was going to hurt me if she stayed with me, and then didn’t date anyone for 2 months, causing me to believe she still likes me. We are still close but we are a grade apart. I was wondering if this would still work for me if she is currently in a relationship?

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