Hi there! Im writing this because I need some help with my situation, Ill try to sum it up:
I have a girlfriend, weve been together for almost 4 years and my feelings towards her are changing.
Let me explain better: I do incredibly love her, respect her and I want her in my life but the love the I feel for her its more as a family love than a relationship love.
I know our relationship cant continue in this way and its time to end it, because it would be something I dont believe in anymore, its difficult and complicated though because I dont wanna hurt her (I perfectly know shed be devastated) and i dont wanna lose her friendship. Thats why I need your help, maybe with some sort of breakup spell or unbonding spell, something that allows us to break our relationship as lovers and also at same time something that doesnt hurt her, protects her and our friendship.
I dont know if all of this sounds toxic because I know that she is still in love with me and weve talked enough together about all this stuff, I just cant accept the idea of seeing her in pain and causing her that pain.
Hopefully well both be happy with your suggestions.
It'll be hard for her either way. Can't change that, unfortunately. I currently can't think of or improvise a specific spell, so I'll just give you this one:-
Take a leaf, take a pen or pencil or any other tool you can write on the leaf with (preferably pink or blue. I think pink would be best since it's a matter of the heart we're dealing with). Make sure the leaf is big enough to write your wish on. Write your specific (but not too specific) wish on the leaf and throw it into the air or bury it into the Earth with the intent that the spirits of the Earth will hear your wish and complete it for you. A prayer to Aphrohidite would work too (or any other Love God or Goddess)
She will more than likely if she still loves you feel some pain, or upset, that is normal.
It is the grieving process. Honestly if you respect her as you say you do, you will respect her enough to be honest with her, and support her through the grieving process.
If you do not want to be with her romantically anymore you shouldn't have to.
Yes you may feel guilty for it, and yes she will be feeling the pain of loss, but if what you say is true and you love her as a family member it is probably best in the long run for both of you to end it.
As far as spellwork goes, I recommend a simple prayer for her with a white candle, sending kindness and caring her way. A healing prayer, and as well your realistic support through her healing process. Realistic support, such as giving her the space she needs, and letting her know you wish to preserve the friendship.
But when all is said and done a spell will not do away with her healing her heart, if anything in all hopefulness it may help to ease the process. She will still need to go through the grieving, and the inner work required to gather the strength to heal on her own.
I wish you both well, but particularly wish very much for her to heal, move on, and find someone who truly loves her, because she is attractive to them romantically, and is very much worthy of such love.