My parents don't believe in magick and I am always in constant conflict with them. The classmates at my school have told the guidance counselor that I am insane. Now, a counselor comes to my house every Thursday and tries to get me to reveal myself. They think I'm crazy when I talk a OBEs and NDEs. I've gotten many negative vibrations from the counselor and she is not as truthful as she claims to be. How do I deal with this situation? There are not many wiccans where I live and I get discriminated a lot. People will call me not good enough and try to put me down.
Re: Should I trust her? By: frannyboy Apr 28, 2013
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Wow, that is not good. Honestly, I would just tell the counsellor to back off, refuse to talk to her/him or not let them in the house. Honestly, I would haha, I would also be very mad and kick those students in the butt, my parents don't believe in magic either but are fine with me believing. In my school, i'm a open witch but people back off and are kinda scared of me, apart from my friends so it's just a prediction of what I would do if that happened to me. Lets just say mad would be a understatement ok? ;)
As the title said, I would not trust her, or even open up to her as a matter of fact. Just even thats she's there is implying that you're insane - when you aren't. Now this is quite a pointless post but umm yeah. So yeah, I wouldn't talk to the counselor perhaps a childish view or whatever but who cares. Sorry for this long and pathetic post lol, message me if you want? :)
Re: Should I trust her? By: Sillieh / Novice Apr 28, 2013
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Hmm , a difficult situation indeed. As Francis said you could just tell her to back off , your life is non of her buisness. Another possible solution is to tell her some bogus story , such as a hobby as a herbalist without revealing your true self just to get her off your back. Its all up to you , your choice , your fate , your life.
Re: Should I trust her? By: tombstone Apr 28, 2013
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Your religion nor your beliefs should be no business of the school. Now in saying that, how open are you in school? I mean, do you brag about being a witch? Most Christians, etc. don't go around bragging about their beliefs. You shouldn't either. Just saying. Blessings!
Re: Should I trust her? By: Murfie / Novice Apr 28, 2013
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Well if you have a counselor coming round the very last thing I would do is respond at all aggressively but instead try to take an intelligent and patient approach. Ultimately telling the counselor to back off and refusing to talk will probably only concern people more, if you really want her to back off then I'd politely ask her and your parents for a different counselor.
How I would respond is far more akin to tombstone. Regardless of who else does or doesn't believe in magic you do and the school should not be interfering with that. Your parents do have a certain right to control you however. My suggestion would be to ask the counselor why they think you're insane that gives you something to go on. From there you can find supporting cultural and scientific material to back up what you believe in. Both OBEs and NDEs have been tested scientifically and while there is no way to prove what the patient experiences they can test reactions within the brain and correlations have been observed. If you counter all their points calmly and reasonably then you may suggest that the students reported your "insanity" may also need counselling as to why they feel threatened by a minority and ultimately peaceful faith.
Re: Should I trust her? By: Skywing / Beginner Apr 28, 2013
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I agree with with both Sillieh and Murfie, while I don't really approve of lying it is sometimes necessary to use deception to protect yourself however this doesn't help with long term issues, to deal with those you must research all things regarding the beliefs that they are questioning (and any others that they might question just in case), there is plenty of scientific evidence these days that back up what many have believed for a long time, such as "M theory" which indicates the existence of parallel realities as well as many other "new discoveries" made by science, and get some reference info from sources that they can't dispute like big name universities as well as reputable "experts".
Re: Should I trust her? By: Artindark Moderator / Knowledgeable Apr 28, 2013
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Since when counselor is put in charge of people deemed as "insane "?
To my understanding councelors deal with emotional issues, such grief and sometimes behavioral issues .
To me it is very strange that the opinion of individual in adolescence stage ,is taken so seriouslly from professional in this field .
I also never heard of therapist of any form simply assigning himself/herself to a patient ,against her or his will and in your case withiout the consent of your parents ,just because a school pupil decided that somebody is "insane ".Who allowed this person to enter in your life so abruptly and question your belief system ?
A good therapist knows the basic rules of communication with patient and forcing yourself to a patient is not exactly standart or prudent move from her side .This has produced already the normal affect of such actions - you trying to keep your guard against her .
I would have told her that I do not trust her enough with my mental ,emotional ,physical wellfare and she is no use to me ,because her actions already put me in deffencive state .
Opening to people has everything to do with trust ,and he/she has failed greatly to get you to trust her .
The main task to each professional in health care is to make the patient feel comtable and relaxed enough to be open for the treatment ,session or whatever is needed in order to better and benefit this patient .
I simply would be honest with her ,because giving people a feedback for their attitude eventually might better them ,and you do not need to pretend that you even like them or are willing to work with them .