I found this site because I'm looking for the best spell for my situation. I've recently been hurt by an ex boyfriend and a couple of other people.I want them all completely removed from my life and my mind. But I want more than just a banishing spell, I want something stronger. We all live in a really small town, I dont want to ever cross paths with any of them.I want to move on with my life, forget them and I want them to forget me. I dont want to remember any of it. Does anyone know which would be the best spell for this?
And you can, but you don't ned powerful spells in order to do this, if these people are harrassing you then what you do is tell your parent's, close friends or even the police. But first and foremost, if youv'e been hurt, start focusing on yourself. Like do things to make yourself feel good and block out the bad.
You can use spells to assist you and also it can help to take your mind of whats going on for you too, a spell is done best when it's most personal. So try to wrtie it and make it as personal to you as possible, but don't go seeking revenge, this will bring you no true lasting happiness and will probably pull you down deeper.
I'm very sorry that this has happened to you and I know it can be awful and painful to see these people again, but don't let it ruin your enjoyment in life, your life is far more meaningful and important so focus on taking care of No.1 YOU! x
Thank you for your kind words.They are not harassing me, my own mind is my enemy. It seems no matter how hard I try, how much I distract myself with people and places, eventualy these people and the situation enter my mind. For example lastnight I kept myself busy until I was too tired to think and fell into a deep peaceful sleep. Then at four am I woke up full of hate and anger. Laying there till the morning trying everything I possibly could to go back to sleep and forget it all, telling myself it doesnt matter, its in the past, they did not break you. But my mind wouldnt let it go.
Sometimes we entrap our minds by trying too hard to take ourselves away from the thing that is bothering us, and in the end all we are actually doing is focusing on it more by running away from it. You can't run from your own pain, it will keep on following you around like a bad rash. The best antidote is acceptance and forgiveness, maybe not for them but more importantly yourself. Not because it was your fault, but because simply it happened to you.
All you need hun is to be who you are, you could perform a cleansing ritual or make a ritual bath using herbs and then wrapping them up using muslin material, and look up healing therapies too. If you've been through a rough time you need to begin a healing process and not all of it is pleasant. But it won't matter what you do unless you first accept what has happened to you, you need to find worth in yourself to be able to move past this situation.
Take mine for example, my ex girl friend felt trapped in her relationship with me (however I will point out that I wasn't the best boy friend to her either). Not that it was in any way an abusive relationship, quite far from it. We were just dysfunctional together and at times both as bad as each other. However if she had just told me she wanted to break up, sure I would have cried and begged her not to leave me, but you can't force the wind to change direction just because it blows the wrong way right?
However this didn't happen, instead her way of getting out of that was to cheat on me with someone else. Needless to say we broke up shortly afterwards, but after that I ended up hating myself and I couldn't get past what she had done. I spent a lot of time thinking of ways to stop myself from feeling like that.
In the space of just two weeks I had gone out partying with friends surfing in Cornwall, visited many family around the United Kingdom and finally I climbed the highest mountain in the UK. Now all of these things did give me a sense of fulfilment, but all I was really doing was trying to run away from my problems. I had taken the advice of my friends and tried to do things to focus on myself, I had tried to do things that focused on her, neither seemed to work.
My love all I can say is that neither of them is right or wrong, the only real antidote is time. And time is what is on your side right now, this pain that I dealt with. Took time and still to this day (although all of this happened 6 months ago) can still be a bit of a battle sometimes, but if I compare that to back then I was even more a mess. So time did have an impact in helping me through it. There may be no sure fire way to solve all of this at once, but a collection of things such as grieving, focusing on yourself, being with other people, grieving again, accepting again, will all individually add up to a speedy recovery, and that's a promise!
I will definately try the cleansing ritual and the luck spell sounds great. Thank you so much Hex for your kind words, you realy do have no idea how much it has helped me. And what a coinsidence. Our situations are so similar. I was in a loveless, going nowhere relationship and I wanted out but was too afraid of the unknown that I stayed. He was also unhappy but decided to cheat. When I finaly dumped him I found out he had been sleeping with this girl who is now his new girlfriend and all of our mutual friends knew about it but didnt tell me. Im not upset about the break up, Im hurt by the blatant disrespect and betrayal of everyone involved. Im just so angry. And ashamed that I was stupid enough to trust him and put myself in a situation where it could happen to me. But you realy have helped, thank you so much. You are right only time can fix this. :)