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Hello been with in a distant relationship with a man for 4 1/2 years. While waiting on his divorce to final. I discovered he is seeing someone where he lives. Started by saying he needed space. When I informed I'm aware of the other woman, he said he wants to be friends and left alone.
Please is there a spell or spells I can use to bring him back to me? Love me again? Show him he made a mistake?
Saw the love revenge spell, but not sure. And I'm a newbie. PLEASE help...I am desperate. Thanx so much
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He cheated on his wife with you. He's been cheating on you.

If you're not interested in an open relationship with him, just move on. He'll continue to cheat. He's left someone else (supposedly) for you. He'll leave you for the next person who catches his fancy.

I don't care how you feel about him. Narcissists know how to evoke love an adoration from others, even while treating those others like garbage. If that's what you want, go for it.Tell him. Do a honey jar. Whatever. That's on you. If you want a faithful, dedicated relationship with someone, move on from him. Accept that he is an abuser who will only use you until he's done and wants to move to the next one.

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I appreciate your honesty. Is there any spells to help with his cheating, narcissistic ways? Is there any spells to bring him faithfully back to me?
Spells to help me see if there is still any hope?
Please.
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Read Codependency No More by Beattie Melody

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Thanx so much for the advice on codependency.
Are you saying there are no spells to help me?
All is lost?
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Well, there may be some spells that -can- be done to have so.e influence. But the real question is if they -should- be done.

First, harm to him- being willfully forced from his nature is tenuous at best, and he will know something is 'wrong' even if he has no idea what. He will have emotional stresses and doubts that could affect his fundamental state- and not for the better. Ever seen a couple trapped in a toxic relationship? Yelling, control issues, lack of trust, fighting, and physical harm become the norm. If you love him like you say you do, would someone who was in love want that for their spouse? Or are you merely wanting to take back control and possession because of feeling rejected?

Second, harm to you. As touched on already, a toxic relationship goes bad. For everybody. His stress would become your stress. And, even with the spell seeming successful would you ever trust him again? Imagine one night he goes to the bar with some friends after work. Would you be happy he is having fun... or pacing the kitchen with a rolling-pin in hand? Healthy love goes two ways, and involves trust and freedom for yourself and your partner. If the door only swings one way, that is a broblem.

Third, after the spell, you would spend the relationship with one thought always on your mind; Does he love me, or is it the spell? .. I'll just let you roll around in your mind what damage that can do over the next 50 or so years of your life.

The bottom line is this; you would be far better off with Self reflection, and asking yourself why you are so dead set on keeping this person to you. Is it love? Is it control? A sense of ownership? Dependence? Then ask yourself why. And go from there.

Right now it would be far better for you to do two things... Self healing, and personal growth. ...Though it is the harder road, and definitely the longer one, as you find yourself you will also meet others who are better for you.

A true (ideal) relationship is not two half-people making eachother whole (only in the other's presence). It is two whole people coming together, balanced against each other but free to be who they are. Growth should be mutual, but independant.
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Okay, after reading the Post I just saw, let's get some things clear right now; you are not Desperate. The child trying to dodge one's 'father' from Preying on them is Desperate.

As for the idea of throwing Spells around and just chucking them for Personal Gain without having established a Basic and Sound Foundation in Magick, it is Folly.

You should be working on Grounding, Defense/Warding, and Divination before chucking around Spells, at the very least, for reasons I have stated numerous times elsewhere. If you can't take the Time to put that much Effort into Magick, then you need to find other ways to deal with these Issues.

Magick is not Wish Fulfillment. Magick is not a 'Get Out of Jail Free' Card. Magick is not a Toy or a Game. It is a Dedicated Discipline requiring much Time, Effort, and Focus. If you can't Respect that much, then you probably shouldn't be looking for Magick to solve any Issue you may have.
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