Re: I need help and advice. By: Cl4ire_Bear Nov 29, 2017
Post # 5
Professional help is usually the best choice, but sometimes it doesn't work out well and I'm sorry for that, but if you haven't found any yet you really should urge them to seek it.
You can definetly look into ways to help the person close to you that involve witchcraft/magic. I think maybe that's something you will have to look into yourself since we don't know what the problem is, if it's a chronic mental illness you can always just be there for them and maybe talk about looking into some spiritual/magic ways to lessen their sadness.
A lot of people say that meditation helps them manage, and although it doesn't solve problems it can be a tool for you to use.
Best of wishes to you and the person you are close to!
Alright so at one point I was super depressed and felt like taking my own life. Now I got professional help and it made the problems go away. Now I understand a lot of kids dont want to seek professional help so there are some plants you can get and brew into drinks that do help with depression. Its a cure all but its better than nothing. In all honesty seeking professional medical help is the best option by far.
Re: I need help and advice. By: Nekoshema / Novice Nov 29, 2017
Post # 7
tough call. if this person is not willing to accept/seek help you'll have a difficult time be it finding professional help or spells. i would sit the person down and explain your concerns to them. there's a good chance they'll get defensive and mean, stay calm and let them rant. explain you care about them, you just want to help them feel better, and that you'll still be their friend whatever they choose [that's a big one. too many people cut out 'negative people' when it's those 'negative people' who need someone] if they agree, you can help them find a doctor and hopefully they can find something to help [it can be a long process, so keep that in mind. one friend just got new medication and it will be a few weeks before they know if it's working, but she's nauseous which is a common side effect for the first few days] being there to listen to them vent is another nice thing, but don't get too overwhelmed, know when you need to step back for your own health and when a professional is needed.
as for spells there are charms, stones, and teas you can give the person you charged with energy [you could also visualize this person surrounded by a warm yellow glow and being happy] but these things can only do so if the person isn't open to the energy the spell will just shrivel and die.
Re: I need help and advice. By: Spirit76 / Beginner Nov 29, 2017
Post # 8
I can understand the frustration of seeing a friend who seems to be suffering and wanting to help. Especially when they have been having troubles for a while and your efforts to help seem fruitless. It can make you feel almost responsible for fixing them. Or frustratingly impotent for 'failing' to help. But there are a couple things you need to bear in mind for sake of your own wellness:
First, reflect on the truth that the only person truly responsible for their state... good or bad... is themselves. You are no more responsible for 'making' that person happy than he/she is for you. You can offer support. You can offer help. You can offer ideas and suggestions and friendship. But it is still ulti.ately up to your friend to accept and make use of it. So long as they choose to remain sad there is nothing you can do to fix it but wait for the time that he/she is ready to move forward. (you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.)
Second, given that this has been an enduring state, it may be worth asking yourself if it mighf be because your friend -wants- to be in this state. For some, being a victim to life's blows is easier to cope with. For others, it becomes a programmed habit because they get rewarded with sympathy, gifts, special treatment, etc. A person can learn that such behavior means they get things they want. So they keep doing it until it becomes automatic. Especially during the developmental years of youth even as far as early adulthood.
Just some food for thought to suggest being mindful of these possibilities. Also be mindful of your own behavior as well. Remember that you are allowed to have personal boundaries. If you are neglecting your own well-being in favor of trying to fulfill your friend's needs then it is time to do some evaluating.