So my mom said that she would be willing to take me to Mississippi this July so that I can't meet my dads side of the family but I absolutely refuse to go with out my fiance. He's the only one who can calm me down when I'm upset and I asked him to go and he only said maybe. Even though my mom is willing to pay for the gas and hotel for everyone. I need a spell or as many as you all have to offer to help make sure that he says yes to going so that I can finally meet them....
I think you're worrying about nothing, Kali. I'm sure you fiance would want to be beside you if he knows you feel you need him. You don't need to cast a spell or use a bunch of energy to force them to come, all you need to do is sit down and talk with him. :)
I agree that a spell seems uneccesary and will only complicate things. A caring fiance would want to go with you and I'm sure he will when the time comes. Just let him know how you feel. I'm sure he's a bit hesitant or reluctant to get in the middle of your personal family moment though at the same he is marrying into your family so in for a penny in for a pound so I'm sure he'll go.
You can also learn few techniques to cope with pressure and to maintain a mindful state of mind, rather than just count on other people to calm you down. You can start learning mindfulness and meditation. Remember, other people cannot be with you 24 hours of the day/night. It will be unfair to demand this type of attention of someone (even from your fiance), and with time it will become extremely overwhelming to the other person. We all need our personal space and time to reflect as well on our own issues, rather than just dedicating all of our time to our partners.
He probably does not like being put in the position of mediator between you and your dad and/or his family, since this is something that you guys should resolve on our own. If there is desperate need for a mediator, it has to be your mother or your dad. You can also always try to educate your parents and all relatives how to handle you in case that you no longer can keep calm. This will be very valuable type of help, which will better your emotional state significantly. When you know that your family is there to support you in any, case you develop incredible resilience in any aspect of your life and handle things much better because they have your back. Now training and educating parents/friends and relatives to do that is not easy process, but with time and effort it can be done. Additionally, your fiance can help this education process as well by modeling the type of behaviour he maintains in order to calm you down.
He want to go with me but the reason he's saying that he may not is, is because his work only gives him a week off of paid vacation days and he has only 2 days left and would have to ask for 3 days of unpaid vacation days and he'd rather not ask for those days off since he wouldn't be paid for them
Sounds like a responsible young man. I wouldn't push it, and take it from an old crone, most men don't like that they always have to deal with your drama, you can learn to cope and clam down without help. Do you meditate? That helps.
A day will come that the two of you can make the trip, he can meet the family and all will be fine.
That all ties into focus, for example. I usually use candles with my meditation so I can focus on that and stay calm. All you really need is to clear your mind and if you can't do that put something in front of you to focus on.