My man will be traveling with a bunch of guy friends to Asia and I'm dead worried about him strayed away and pick up girls while he's there (friends' friends or clubbing.. or prostitution..) He will be gone for 2 weeks. Is there a spell that would apply to this kind of situation? Does this consider as forcing his will? I just want to protect him and myself... ? I have already communicated with him how it would hurt our relationship but he's not the most self disciplined person in the world.. and he can't resist temptation especially with guy friends around who would do it.
A spell would just be a band-aid to a bigger and more real problem in the relationship, in my opinion.
But about magic, perving at other girls when he's in a monogamous relationship is 1. internal, so it would literally take some magic to interfere with free will that deeply, and 2. physical, like it's not a literal wall of wind or electricity that's going to appear if he tries to sidle up to some sweet new thang 3. you could cast an anti-glamor spell around him, but if he's around guy friends egging him on then that can fall like a house of cards and 4. just a band-aid to a bigger and more real problem.
You've already talked to him...but still you don't trust him. Either you're too suspicious, or he's never earned your trust in that way, or both--but that, I think, is the real problem. Why does it take discipline to honor your perspective in the relationship? I'm more inclined to believe that it would take a breakdown of the objectification of women (including you) and empathy. Basically, just as an outsider to your relationship, what he does is not the focus so much as what he brings, which is doubt and distress. Can you really live with that, with him just being himself in ways that will never stop hurting you?
Otherwise, if you must: photo of your man, ribbon (whatever color), wrap the first with the second with your intention at heart. Say your spellcasting intention out loud if it helps. Aaand...done.
Thank you Aeons_wing. You are right on the spot. I am suspicious because he's not trustworthy. I have always seen the problem and know that this relationship isn't going anywhere. Yet, feelings are there and I've tried breaking up several times, ending back together again because I have strong feelings for this person. I even have multiple incidents that give me thoughts of him could very likely be my twin flames. Until I have another awakening, I still hope he will be awaken and treasure me. Thank you for your advices. I will try lighting a candle, chant a spell in my own words with intention and follow your photo instructions.
Re: resist temptation spell? By: Lark Moderator / Adept
Post # 6 Sep 04, 2014
Of course you can resist temptation, saying you can't is ignoring the fact that people do it all the time. I used to smoke and I stopped, because I resisted the lure of cigarettes. I lost 90 pounds last year because I overcame the temptation to eat the wrong things. With sufficient will power one can overcome a lot of things. To say otherwise is to tell someone they are helpless to control their own lives, and that isn't a good message to be sending out into the Universe.
I don't see why you can't just trust him. Address your fears with him, then take a leap of faith. Just because media is full of cheating men doesn't mean yours will.
Fenrir, I hope you meant its hard to resist temptation. If not, ever heard of willpower? If you want something bad enough you can resist temptation. Some people have addiction problems, but they seek help when they really want to change. You might suddenly crave what you've cut out on occasion, or randomly ten years later, but you choose to ignore. I'm a chocoholic, in my teens I use to have chocolate bars in a kitchen drawer in case I wanted to indulge my sweet tooth [which I've got a pretty big one of as well] but over the years I've cut back and only occasionally have chocolate, which is dark chocolate and one square a day. [Sugar I've just started eliminating, tough at first but its easier now]
I have an issue of trust because of his history. Any men are capable of cheating but being faithful and loyal is an ability that we choose to do. He's capable of cheating but not able to be faithful due to the nature of his personality and value. I want to use a spell to wake up his love for me (if he loves me genuinely) or a spell to increase my attraction and becoming his missing piece while he's away.