Before we started speaking my life was full of luck then we started talking and since then my husband has lost 2 jobs we havent been able to travel my relationship with family has been horrible Ive been depressed and gaining weight. All while see seems to be doing great building a great relationship with our family traveling etc. shes also starting to look like me the way she styles her hair and dresses its just so strange
Just to be sure I have the information correct; You met a girl, whome you have started becoming friends with recently. And since meeting her, your husband has been having work difficulties while you have been having general bad luck. In the meantime this new friend as been having good luck, and has been changing her appearance specifically to look more like you?
One thing to always bear in mind is that coincidence doesn't mean causality. There could be multiple things going on at the same time here. I would begin by examining the circumstances as individual events. What jobs were lost? Were they temporary/seasonal? Does he do contract work and the work was concluded? Layoffs or business shutdowns because of covid? Fired because of personal actions? Basically, was the job loss due to something specific and mundane/logical?
Same for travel. Why haven't you been able to? Lack of funds, unlucky timing, covid, not being vaccinated (many places restrict travel unless you have a vaxination card), destinations being closed or having restricted space, etc. Again if it is something explainable mundanely, then that is likely the cause and also a signpost for what you need to fix to solve the issue.
Same goes for family actually. Have there been arguements/disagreements? What about? Have these rough patches happened before with your family? Are there times where things turn toxic because of differences of lifestyle or values? Basically, would these issues have happened anyways, if this friend wasn't around?
Other thoughts to consider; does this person follow a magical path and/or work magic? Has this person made a habit of verbalizing admiration or jealousy over you? Do you have any specific information that would tel uou she has both the desire to be you, and the practice/beliefs that magic would make it happen? (Let alone evidence that she would have the knowledge, experience, or developed authority to accomplish it)
One key to awareness is recognizing that all things begin with the Self. Sort that out first, then explore if there is an outside influence going on. It is honestly unlikely that anyone would use magic for such a goal. Magic is a lot of work to do it right, has very real limits, and takes an investment of time and knowledge.
Besides, this may sound really harsh here but what I am about to ask is a genuine and important question.
What makes you think your life is something another person would want to take? What is so fantastic about it? And why not just do what you did to earn it? In all honesty it would probably be easier for her.
Also consider what if she did take it in some way? Having the inherent laziness of trying to take something another person worked for also means they would continue to be lazy and not do the work to keep it once they got it. It would return to you in short enough order.
Pride in who you are and ego over how important you perceive yourself to be are very grey areas with very narrow lines to cross. Sometimes a good dose of humility, being reminded gently that no individual is so great as the whole they contribute to, eases a lot of worry.
It is true that even a single drop of water will raise the ocean. But only by one drop, just like every other drop.
Thank you I really needed this.
Its not a friend its my older sister. Weve always been different. Maybe im just picking up on the energy she is giving off and its not good. So for now Ive decided just not to involve her in my life. I am Hispanic and in our culture you can go to a botega & pay someone to do magic. Im no expert I just needed some guidance or idk maybe to vent. Ive started meditating & just finding myself again. Thank you for your input
Certainly understandable. It is always unpleasant when life takes a difficult turn and I hope that things improve for you.
I find, truthfully, that when negative things start happening it doesn't really matter where they come from. If it is from another person's actions, making a choice that didn't turn out how you expected, making outright poor choices, or even being hexed, cursed or just plain dumped on by the universe. What matters is what you do with it. Every challenge is a chance to learn something. Make new, better informed and more experienced choices. A chance to turn it into something that makes you a better person. More compassionate. Better boundaries. More balanced. More aware of risks. So next time around you achieve more.
It isn't exactly about spiritual matters, but Will Smith actually put out a very poignant youtube video that I re-watch from time to time. It might be food for inspiration during troubled times. It is called 'Fault vs Responsibility'.
If possible, you would look up loose links in your aura that connect to other people and dispel it. You could also ground and be more intuitive on flowing with your environment rather than cascading on brackish unmatched ends. The faster things settle after warding shows how little you are attached to things. If possible, build mental reserves with things you like to do if your personal time allows (meditating, smudging with sage, prayer through religious text). As long as you feel nothing can hold you on terms or at bay from comfort or completing goals without delay, then you can catch snags as your personal free will allows. When I feel like something is giving me a literal blockage in life, i like to exercise, ground, and recite the diamond sutra to keep a routine. Personally though, I have free time for it so I would understand if this routine doesn't apply to you. I hope your situation improves.