Hi there, I'm new here and I was wondering if anyone could help me. There is a person I know who is extremely pent up and sexually frustrated I was wondering if there are any spells I could perform to help him. He is just a friend to me but he's been complaining about these symptoms for months to the point where it spikes his stress levels which in turn leads to physical symptoms. (back, neck, headaches, etc.)I was wondering if there's a spell I could attempt to either improve his love/sex life or maybe just to ease his stress? Thanks in advance.
I don't recommend any spells but he could do something simple like place a cat tail (Plant) in his back pocket. Cat tails are good for attracting a partner.
Or he can go to a store and by an item and beat to his tune.
The thing is he already has a partner. She has a fear of intimacy which is honestly where the problem lies. He's respecting her wishes as he should but this also leaves him pent up without an outlet. This combined with all the stress in his life leaves him wound up very tight which also leads to physical aches and pains. It's unfortunately a complicated situation.
Re: Spell for a Friend By: prsona Moderator / Knowledgeable
Post # 4 Mar 12, 2019
I honestly have to wonder about people whose entire moods turn towards the worse simply for the want of a date. While being single can be lonely at times, and some desires go unfulfilled, it's not the end of the world. Such behaviors can be really worrisome. I'd suggest his best option is to work on himself, and not seek a partner until he is actually ready.
He already is in a committed relationship. I agree with you that he needs to work on himself and he also agrees. He is working on it but the most concerning thing to me is the physical pains. He doesn't have a proper outlet for all his stress and honestly it's to the point where it could probably effect his health. I think the sexual aspect is more an outlet. Because he doesn't have any sort of outlet for himself it's becoming detrimental to his well being.
If he's having pains because of stress, I don't really feel that turning to sexuality would be the best thing. There's nothing wrong with having physical relationships, of course, but when they're used as a coping mechanism they can become unhealthy.
Has he tried seeking professional help from a counselor or doctor? They might be able to give him some advice on managing stress and make sure the pains aren't being caused by something dangerous.
As far as managing stress, could he find another outlet? What about exercise? Meditation? Maybe he could set aside an hour in the evening for a hot bath and a cup of tea, or take up painting to express his anxieties, or take a twenty minute jog in the morning.
Again, there's nothing wrong with enjoying sexual relationships, but needing it to cope with stress to the point of physical pain seems unhealthy to me.
I completely agree. He doesn't have enough money for counselling (Which would probably be the best option) a lot of his stress stems from him working so much to keep himself afloat. So, usually when I suggest things like that the response is that he wishes he had time, etc. etc. It's unfortunate that he feels that way. I figured a simple spell to ease his aches and pains would at the very least help take one thing off his plate until he figures out a way to unwind and chill for a bit. I will definitely keep trying to recommend activities for him to relax but I figured something simple to ease his pain may also be helpful. Thank you for your suggestions.
Ah, yeah, money and time can definitely both get in the way of things like that. I certainly understand that being a factor.
Spells can certainly help with stress from my experience, so as long as you have his permission to preform a spell for him, there's nothing wrong with doing one, as long as they're done in conjunction with mundane remedies.
Maybe getting a candle to represent his stress, lighting it, and as the candle burns down imagine it being his stress melting away.
You could also make a small satchet for him with herbs associated with relaxation and emotional health. Maybe put some coins and herbs to draw in money, as well, as it sounds like that's where a lot of his stress is coming from.
There are also spells just to draw money. Jade plants bring money, so he could get one and put it in the window. There are also jar spells, where you put pennies in a jar, and as the jar fills, you bring in more money.
I've found essential oils and incense to help with stress, personally, as long as his doesn't have allergies to ingredients in them. Mint, jasmine, and dragon's blood are most relaxing for me, but he could find one that helps him the most.
Since he's in a relationship, maybe talking to his partner about his stress could help, as well.
Either way, it's very kind that you want to help out your friend. I hope his emotional wellbeing improves. I know how debilitating stress can be.