Does anyone else here get an inordinate volume of WEIRD/random/irrelevant/flirtatious mail here?
EVERY time I get online I get a lot of messages, mostly from men/boys, that say nothing but, "Hi." Or "How are you?" Or "I like your pic." Or "You are hot." (Really? Did they not read in my profile where I'm probably old enough to be their mom? Ew.) Almost ALL of my mail is like that. (Except for one piece of mail I got last night, where someone asked me a question about magical topics that I have never indicated I knew anything about, and when I failed to respond within 5 minutes of receiving the email, he emailed again, saying he was blocking me because I'm such an ego maniac. Because I didn't respond within 5 minutes?? Weird.)
I do block people like that . . . but considering the frequency of mail like that (and I'm sure there are others who get the same amount of weird mail, or more) it sure would be nice if we could "white list" friends/coven members/mods and admins etc. to email us, and block all others. That is, only accept mail from people we specify. Because there's really no way to stop receiving multiple weird mails every day.
That is just what the mail is like here, the same is found on many other forums.
You can state in your profile that messages should include an informative subject and have a magickal topic but very few will read the information.
Any mail you consider pointless, flirtatious or spam can be deleted and blocked to stop them from sending you more mail. Unfortunately that is the best you can do other than change your profile to something very bland, which is no fun at all.
If you are getting messages that you deem harassing or inappropriate first thing you should do is click the ignore button and then report any messages that violate the terms of service to petrarca the website administrator where he can take the appropriate actions if any messages you get have violated the rules of this site,
couldn't agree more. you do get some nice people, but there are a lot of impatient types [like i had this one person i was chatting with, logged off, came back the next day and there was 5 messages which went 1. question 2. pleading 3. question again 4. angry 'you're so full of it i'm blocking you' 5. 'please answer me i'm sorry, i didn't mean it i'm just really desperate to know how to cast a simple spell' and i'm sitting there like 'uh... ok... crazy'] really want to shake these people yelling 'patience is a virtue' especially when it comes to magick, i've had to wait upwards of 3 months for a spell the complete and you couldn't wait 12 hours?
i do find it annoying [and a little creepy] when you get a random 'no subject' or 'hey' and the message just says 'hi' or 'you're cute' or 'what's up' or some simple thing. i get it's hard to break the ice, but a little bit of a conversation like 'hey, i saw your profile and we like the same thing...' oh, and it can't be stressed enough how this isn't a dating site but people still try. this one guy started flirting with me once and when i told him i'm practically married he replied ' so am i, doesn't mean we can't have fun ;) ' never blocked someone so fast in my life lol!
anyway, complaining aside, there isn't much to be done beyond boldly displaying you're only here for magick in your profile [even then some choose to ignore it] deleting the no subject or titles you sense are a waste of time, or spending your time online blocking everyone you feel wouldn't engage in civil conversation.