I have been married for 12 years come next month and we have four small children together. My marriage is falling apart. My husband is so negative all the time. It is like he does not see all the wrong he is doing and He refuses to work on things. It is as if something dark has a hold on him. He is just so mean and he has changed for the worst. How can I remove negative energies from us and cast a love spell to save us? I have tried to remove bad energy with sage and then tried a love spell but they did not seem to work. I have been told that I need to have someone experienced do the spells or I will cause more damage. However I do not have the money to have someone experienced to do this for me. I am getting desperate. What do I do?? Thanks in advance.
Thank you for replying. Quite honestly I have only cleansed once. I am not the best at meditation and I think I lack the concentration to do it myself. My mind has been all over the place. Plus I lack the confidence after being told I need a professional. Honestly even if I could afford it, I have a hard time trusting someone to do the work for me. So many scams out there. Trust me I don't corner him. I hate even bringing it up. Although we are supposedly separated he still lives here and we still sleep in the same bed. Just no intimacy. He is no longer affectionate with me. He stopped wearing his wedding band and.noonger tells me he loves me. I get lots of mixed messages from him. One minute he seems sure that he is done. The next he is being sweet and doing things for me. Even talks of staying here to help repair the home we share. But if I show any hope of reconcile he shoots it down. It freak in hurts!!! I want it to work but the longer all this drags out I am becoming bitter. He says the reason that he does not want to be with me anymore is because I have been negative in the past. I've had a lot of things happen to me that has caused me to become a depressed person. But he has also been very negative throughout the relationship. Now he is adamant about doing what he wants to do and staying out late without having to answer to me. He's doing things that don't even make sense anymore. He seems like an entirely different person. There is no reasoning with him. I just feel like something evil is taking him over. If it's meant to be that we parked and then it's meant to be but at least want to try this for us and for our kids. I just wanted to make sure that I'm going about it the right way and not messing things up in the process. Making things worse.
I am sorry you are dealing with a difficult situation with your husband and I can understand and relate to being in such a negative and unhealthy relationship. The fact that you have children makes it even more complicated and I can understand that as well.
It's great that you are trying to cleanse away negative energies but I agree that before any real work can begin discovering and understanding the root and causes of your husbands' negative and hostile disposition you won't have much luck doing anything and neither will anyone else.
I do not recommend paying anyone to help you cast spells or do workings because a spell or working no matter how great will not effectively change your husband and make him be more positive, loving, and caring. I am not saying magic cannot help your situation because it can but the majority of the work that needs to be done is with your husband.
I recommend seeking marriage counseling as well as your husband seeing his own individual therapist or counselor whether it be from a trained psychologist or a spiritual or religious counselor. Your husband obviously has some issues and he himself may be going through things he might not understand which is why he is behaving the way he is, he also may be in a great deal of pain. Because if that he will need to work at exploring the reasons, causes, and solutions for his problems to begin the healing process.
I know you are desperate and I get that it is really unpleasant and difficult, but there is no easy nor quick solution that will change things in this situation. It is also possible that things will not get better and that will be very difficult, painful, and sad but if you need to move on for you and your children's sake that is one option to consider.
I wish you the best of luck and hope that you, your husband, and your family can sort things out.
i'm sorry to hear that. it is a good idea to cleanse/protect your home, yourself and your loved ones. there are many methods you can try, you just need to focus and visualize the negative energy being replaced with bright positive energy. you don't need an experienced witch to cast the spell [how do you think we get experience?] if you understand 'the basics' of magick you'll be fine.
regarding your husband there's some root cause of his negativity, it could be stress, or perhaps some type of mental illness. thing is if he see's nothing wrong you can't really help him, you need to be there and try to help him to open up even a little. i've been with my boyfriend for many years and there are times where he has to tell me i'm being to negative or doing things that upset him because it just slips in unnoticed and slowly becomes routine. it's hard, but just be there for him, listen, and if he asks for advice, give some in a non-judgmental way.
Thank you for your replies. It makes me feel somewhat at ease to know that someone can relate to what I am experiencing. I do agree with him getting counseling for himself. I have requested that. I asked him to participate in both marriage and individual but if not marriage counseling then at least some for himself because I know he has had a hard past. He is just being stubborn and refuses. He wants to call his own shots. Not give me any leverage whatsoever. Even if it is hurting us all. He went through a lot as a child and as an adult. He is totally stressed and he has anger issues just as his Dad did. We have both suffered multiple losses and heartache. Finances are an awful strain on us too. I am sure there are things I do not know about that he stresses over as well. I am not innocent either. I have had a very hard life as well. I however, am in counseling and I am trying hard to work on my issues which involves trust and anger management. I realize things may not change with him and maybe I am fighting a losing battle. As much as it hurts I am trying to come to terms with that. I am doing my best to stay civil with him and be present for him as much as I can without judgement but I am growing pretty tired of his stubbornness. I do what I can to keep him comfortable and happy and listen to him when he needs me too but he does not share his thoughts with me often. He is either keeping them to himself or he possibly has a friend he may be confiding in. He did that before a few years back. He said I do not listen to him so he ended up friending a girl where he works that had her own issues of abuse. He said he was just trying to give her advice and help her but ended up confiding things to her and in the end he developed feelings for her. He confessed this to me in our anniversary night. I was devastated. He swore they never kissed or had relations but the feelings he had for her was weighing on him and he did not know what to do. We almost split up over that. We went to a marriage therapist briefly (because we did not have insurance and could not afford to keep going). He went through with everything the therapist suggested and ended all contact with this girl. We stayed together but I never really forgave him or trusted him after that and it damaged us. It has been so hard. I don't want to give up on us because I know he is damaged himself and I just want to be there for him for better or for worse like I promised to be. But I know that I can only lead the horse to the water but I can't make it drink. It is killing me inside. If he keeps refusing to work it out then I have to do what I can to move on. This is hard because he still lives here. We have discussed buying the house we rent so that we have a permanent home for the kids however this house needs a lot of repair which means he would be here all the time. If we are supposedly separated then I don't want him here whenever he wants to be and staying out all night and doing God knows what. That is not fair. When I am never free to do so. I am always with the kids. I'm sorry. I am venting now. I have just been so frustrated. He fusses and complains everyday. I was just hopefully that this negative energy cleanse.would help to fix that. I am too tired to carry on this way.