I want love to come my way. I'm against the cliche method of online dating. It takes away the romantic ideal that I want so much. I tried mingling and going out but no luck. I have an outgoing personality and carry myself well. I've lost all hope in any other method so I'm turning to magic. Does anyone have a suggestion of an effective spell to bring forth love? I don't want to inhibit on free will just allow a man to come into my life and love me for me. I will love him for him.
Also, I'm new to magic so a spell for beginners would be great!
Re: Tired of being lonely By: Brysing Moderator / Adept
Post # 3 Apr 21, 2014
Coleygirl, you are a romantic! Seeking the "ideal" love. Love is always a compromise.One learns to ignore the faults.
True love starts with infatuation, quickly followed by sexual attraction. In time, this is followed by "habit", contentment; and becomes the best love of all.
But first, you "fall in love".And "fall" is the objective word!
It is often said that "love is blind". When you fall in love you are not only blind! You are deaf and dumb as well!
And all of it is instinctive! A man is "instinctively" seeking a mother for his children; a woman is looking for a "father" for her children.Both are seeking similarities about their own childhood, and inner "feelings".
There will always be faults on both sides. Every wedding ceremony, the world over, says much the same thing:-
"For better or for worse; in sickness or in health."
Coleygirl, you are looking for the "ideal" love.It doesn't exist!
Brysing, what a beautiful description of love. "True love starts with infatuation, quickly followed by sexual attraction. In time, this is followed by "habit", contentment; and becomes the best love of all."
That is so true. I have been married for a little over 20 years and it honestly does become the best love of all.
Coleygirl, love will come. You can't force it and you can't plan it. Allow it to happen naturally, that way you know it was meant to be. Forget about falling in love or trying to find the perfect mate (he doesn't exist), instead focus on you and do things that make you happy. When others see you at your best it makes them want to be around you. Thus creating the perfect atmosphere for someone with similar interests to become interested in you.
I thank you for the advice. Let me clarify some things, I'm not looking for a perfect man because he doesn't exist. I'm looking for the right man. I do know love is a process, but every guy I meet (who I think is a possible boyfriend) disappoints me by their attitudes. These attitudes vary like selfish, mean, insatiable sexuality, and greedy.
It won't be such a problem if these attitudes didn't dominate their persona. The great guys I meet who are generally kind and connect with me are only interested in my friendship. I know I have to be true to myself and be patient. I've been patient for many many years. I've prayed, tried to focus on friends , family, and work. I've made the initial post because I don't know what else to do.
I know to be careful what I wish for. Past experience has taught me that lesson well. But this isn't just a wish it's been a deep yearning in my soul since I was a little girl to belong to a special guy.
Everyone seeks such things at some point in their life. Linda is right, that post has wonderful advice! There are a lot of things that you could try that may help. However I feel that "love" will come to you when the time is right.
Meditate on your own beliefs of love. What do you seek in a partner? Is this really what is best for you? What can you do in your life to draw such a person?
In magic there are a few things to do that are not quite the same as a love spell. Wear a garnet, prefferably on your left wrist. Wear oil of daisy when you go out. Meditate and visualize the type of person you wish to have in your life, being drawn to you. With that last one I would be careful not to picture physical aspects, but the energy you desire from them.
Become that which you desire. People are drawn to what we exude/ radiate. When we reek of something, like desperation, people latch onto that also, or can be pushed away. Likewise when we radiate confidence, or self-contentment. When you find someone that radiates what you are seeking, do not be shy about expressing how you feel. Women have the upper hand!