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The fluff?

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The fluff?
Post # 1
How the fluff did this happen?

Ok so here are the main scenario's on this website:

1. Someone asks a fluffy question, gets ridiculed and laughed at, doesn't get any more empathic advice and understanding as to what they got mixed up.

2. Someone asks a seemingly fluffy question which some individuals actually have hands on experience in and/or have some knowledge in. The questioner gets ridiculed, ignored etc. and gets no help what-so-ever.

3. Someone asks something that "everyone" knows the answer to, and yet people tend to either enter battle-royale mindset, or everything actually gets resolved.

Now, to those who have some account of actual spiritual understanding as well as an open enough mind, what the fluff is all this about?

It amuses me, I was admin on spiritualforums.com for quite a few years when I was younger, and that was due to my understanding, empathy, knowledge, experience and helpfulness. I do not wish to sound offensive, but I see very little of that here.

Pagan society has changed, and even Discordians have proven more helpful in paganism.

Now, I await what droll/amusement comes up next.
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Re: The fluff?
Post # 2
Edit: I have only just after posting this read a thread which had positive help. Kudos to said helpful individual to that other individual.
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Re: The fluff?
Post # 3
I have seen this as well, in the pagan 'community' in my area and on many sites.

It sucks. I do my best to be helpful, I have times I don't bother to be helpful, mood swings one might say. That said there are times when you help but the person being helped refuses to do work on their own. Sometimes you help and find that it takes more of your time from that which needs to be done than you can handle.

I am in no way a teacher. I offer what guidance I am capable of and nothing more. Some my question my abilities, that is there problem not mine.

Having read your post I will make an effort to correct the 'fluff' and answer questions as best I can.
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Re: The fluff?
Post # 4
I believe it is the ego holding people. You have the humble nature to leave some ego behind.
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Re: The fluff?
Post # 5
The people here tend to automatically think you should know certain things.
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Re: The fluff?
Post # 6
I only help with things I know about because if I try to help with something I DON'T know about, I could end up misleading the poor person and doing more harm than good! It would be like someone who knows nothing about auto repair trying to fix someone's car! Bottom line: if I don't help, it's not out of selfishness...it's because I don't want to be the blind leading the blind. Blessed Be )O(
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Re: The fluff?
Post # 7
Sadly some good people get labled fluff from saying a silly thing in chat, but most of the people deserve the title through roleplaying. (which on this site counts as claiming to be another species or being able to do impossible things)
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Re: The fluff?
Post # 8
I think part of it is the sheer repetition of it all. Humans are hard-wired in a way that makes it so you don't really feel successful until you see tangible evidence of this success, which is why depression is so common - many cubicle jobs are so far-removed from any tangible results that employees don't get that "I succeeded" feeling at any point. Even though it's always new people asking these questions, the fact remains that we are still being asked how to turn into vampires or whatever, so it ends up feeling like you're walking in circles and not really going anywhere. I think this is also why you'll often see young/new practitioners being nice at first and then slowly falling into the same patterns.

I think another big part of it is that these are not just questions, but also assumptions - some people ask if it's possible to become a vampire, but the ones people seem more irritated with are the ones asking how to become a vampire. These people are ignorant of magick, but they've already somehow concluded that you can become a vampire and they just need to find out how. This has a tendency to invoke feelings of, "who the heck do you think you are!?" from the local fauna. Imagine this scenario playing out in some other venue - walking into a dojo and proclaiming that you know they can fly because you saw it in a kung fu movie, and then asking them to teach you how to do it. If this forum is any indication there's a good chance you also start arguing with the dojo teacher when he or she asserts that there's no flying. It's annoying to the teacher, it's disrespectful of the art, and it's shockingly foolish and arrogant.

It's also worth noting that many of these people asking fluffy questions are admittedly getting their ideas from obvious fiction like TV dramas and anime. If I were to walk into the college biology department and say I wanted to know more about inter-species communication between rabbits and ducks because I saw Bugs and Daffy arguing on Loony Toons, it would probably take the staff a good 10 seconds to realize that I am not going to be a serious student. When you are interested in magick, you ask questions about magick - when you are interested in anime, you ask questions about anime. I posit that people asking fluffy questions of that nature are not actually interested in magick as an art, but are rather more interested in making their anime story real. This is not to say that a real and genuine interest in magick cannot be sparked by some magick-oriented fiction, but even then those people will ask questions about actual magick in an earnest attempt to learn and don't generally pull ideas from their fiction.
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Re: The fluff?
Post # 9

I think the diva of this thread was Chiron, whom graciously stole the words from my lips. I completely agree with what you said Chiron. I often observe the same issue over and over again, and while I am pretty confident in understanding the underlying reasons and causes for the same patterns of behavior, I often think to myself "what the nibblets is wrong with most of these people. Not that I am trying to get up in everyone's grill and be judge mental of people I do wonder both about the people who either factiously want their fantasies to come alive or those who are simply young and or new to the craft; and then I also with the same thought wonder about the more experienced and well rounded practitioners' of the craft and ask myself why they don't even attempt to make an effort to help those in need and are asking for help.

I get that it is extremely exhausting and annoying when the same questions are asked over and over, and I understand that some of the people aren't here to dedicate their time and effort to the study of the craft. But while I understand that and the many other reasons why it has become difficult for the experienced practitioners to stand up, be dedicated to helping those in need and being assertive and resourceful, I also know that in life and reality there will always people who aren't serious towards the cause or the study. Whether it be a lazy coworker, a sloppy waitress, a boring teacher etc. there is always going to be the people who don't have the passion, the desire, the will, or the love to dedicate their time to try and uphold the expectations, the dedication, or the strength to carry on even when "nibblets" hit the fan.

So great we established some thoughts on the causes and reasons why the cycle of fluffiness exists, we get it, we know their are flaws within our community just as we all should know there are flaws within every community and group. So here is my question to you all: "What in the sweet corn do you plan to do to fix the problem, instead of blabbering about how and why it sucks?" Yes, that's right I said it, I am in a fierce mood and I have had one heck of a southern peachy day.

You know if you set aside of the fact that it gets annoying as heck to get asked the same questions over, or the fact that some people aren't really here to learn and be told what is what; all you have to do is take the few seconds to answer a question or at the very least be resourceful enough to point whoever in the right direction. If they don't like your answer then screw them, don't get all sassy and huffy because they don't want to learn and listen to what you have to say. I understand you want these people to take what you say and understand it, take it to heart, but really at the end of the day what matters is that you spoke your mind, you at least had the respect and courage to make an effort.

To give you some advice from my own experience I will tell you that through my time here and elsewhere I started out where I was like "Yeah, that's right, I know what I'm talking about, and I am here to turn heads, impress people, and make a difference!" And you know what I have learned after finding out that you'd be lucky as a two piece and a biscuit if just one or two people cared to even pay attention: That no matter how hard you try to make a difference, the most important thing that matters in the end is whether or not after all your hard work, time, and effort is if what you did helped you grow spiritually, if you learned a lesson, or found some tid bit of understanding out of all this mess we call magic.

Our community is a rubix cube of this and that, and all kinds of gumbo. We have so many people from all kinds of walks of life, all kinds of juicy personalities, all kinds of backgrounds. We as a spiritual community are so diverse and enriched in so many paths and beliefs, it is truly a spectacular achievement that we manage to stick together through all the popsicles that we endure. I think even though we have our flaws and we face our own challenges and trails, we are a strong, brave, and triumphant family of individuals and brothers and sisters. So in light of all of this sugar and spice laid before you, I say these last words to you tonight: "Shut the deli meats up, and start upholding the standards that as kindred of the craft we expect; if you know it and got it share it with those who ask or those willing to listen; otherwise stuff your face with something other than donuts!"

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Re: The fluff?
By: / Novice
Post # 10
are you referring to the ranking system here? meh, it's flawed and should be ignored but whatever. or are you referring to 'i want to be a vampire, tell me now' and people snapping at them? yea, kinda sucks, typically i explain why it won't work, unless i'm in a hurry, tired, or they ask something at really upsets me. everyone has a breaking point and as a result they snap at people. that being said, there are quite a few people who are convinced they know best, so no matter how nicely you explain, or how harshly, they'll bite your head off. it's happen to me a couple times, i say nicely it can't happen, and they send me mail insulting me. the worst one is still bugging me. point being, be nice but don't expect results.
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