*just a little disclaimer, I did do this spell first out of spite. I was coming from a place of hurt. Which I know is wrong- but I have questions and I want to fix things asap if something is wrong. I’m willing to throw out the spell, but I just want some guidance, clarification, and help. It would really be appreciated.
I’ve been going through so many issues with my bf now ex (jealousy, mistrust, bad communication, lack of effort from him). We have high highs and low lows. As of late I kept feeling highly suspicious and also neglected bc we’re long distance. After a bad phone call- I did the honey jar spell.
When I did the spell I was angry. I have been wanting to do this spell for a long time with good intentions a month ago but I wanted to wait for eclipse season to end and intuitively pick the right time to do this. That was when we were in a better place- so I had everything I needed for the spell. Oddly enough even though I started off angry I was shaking when I was writing out our names in ink and folding the paper and just overall a little scared when I was making it. I used honey, rose petals, cinnamon sticks, and burnt a red candle on top of the jar. The wax melted and actually formed a mini heart!! So I thought it was going to work well. My only thoughts were I wanted him to be obsessed with me no matter what happens and tied to me.
Just two days later (the Aries red moon)- we had another phone call. And he admitted something hurtful to me. For context we had broken up and gotten back together last year and have been together for a while since. On that call he admitted that he lied about not hooking up with other girls when we weren’t together. I was livid and sad because he made emphasized that he hadn’t when we got back together. I kind of feel like I did this jar bc a huge part of me knew something was off about him and I needed to lock him in for whatever reason so that even if we’re not together he can hurt. I broke up with him that night after finding out that among other things.
But we called again a day after this, and it was much more peaceful. We got closure and accepted that we were breaking up. When we talked we admitted that we still wanted to be together, but it would only be after time has passed. We do love each other a lot despite everything. We’re both entertaining the idea of finding each other again if it’s meant to be. Maybe I’m just hung up on him and having withdrawals, but I have hope for us- I do feel deeply connected with him and a huge part of me thinks we’ll get back together after healing and working on ourselves. So now I feel like my intentions after that closure are now positive and hopeful.
My questions are:
even though I have good intentions now, is the fact that I started it off ill going to ruin it now?
• is this honey jar spell futile? It’s been less than a week since I’ve had it, but maybe something in my story or process has made it defective. Like it wasn’t gonna work anyway.
-or did the spell actually work, did us going through this somehow have to do with the jar?
• if I still want to be with him and have good intentions, do I keep it? Do I do a new one?
what do I do moving forward, is it just best to throw it out?
