I'm about to start moving into my new home.
A little background: home is a rental, owned and lived in by my husbands parents in the 90s. Has been rented out to 3 families since. The last man who lived there killed himself in November . He was married, separated never divorced for years. (which I think ties into the issues we're having now)
Me and my husband were offered the home in exchange for the place we're living in now and cleaning, painting the house since the man really let the house rot.
Since working in the house I've noticed I'm very hostile towards my husband, impatient, and just in general angry, nothing makes me happy or I guess good enough for me. We had a huge blowout this past week and we both think it's linked to the house.
I've been asking about the families who lived there before him and his wife nothing out of the ordinary.
I haven't been working in there for a while but he was working by himself and also got impatient and dismissive of me for a week or 2.
The last time I went in there I had a small crystal and candle grid with incense. I am just curious if anyone has advice for cleansing the space of the negative energy so it doesn't affect us like this anymore.
I have tourmaline, selenite, protection candles and incense, on the way.
I'm planning on helping him cross over when we do move in which is gonna be soon within 5 days.
My first thought is that the house may need some pretty heavy cleansing and protections. So, I'd start with a banishing such as a very heavy smoke cleansing. Make sure you can leave doors and windows open, but after something like suicide, there is a lot of unresolved tension there.
Of course, there are other options to just smoke. There are prayers, reading rites and scriptures (depending on your beliefs), and simply banging pots and pans, demanding anything that's there should get the heck out. Strong language is best with that last one.And not anger, but bold and confident demand to depart.
But I think there's often more to the process than just banishing. There are also protecting and healing (or inviting what is desired in the space). And the order is important! You wouldn't want to do a total banishing after you call in a lot of good energy and then shut the door behind it all with some strong protections and wards. Rather, banish -- clear absolutely everything. Then, protect the place to all except that which you invite, then invite the healing and positive energies.
I also like the idea of a light-bringing. It used to be done by candle or lantern light, when inside homes was quite dim after nightfall or when the doors and widows were all shut. The idea was that negative spirits would hide within a home in the darkest places. So, literally everything was exposed to light, and the people would proclaim that whatever was in the house is unwelcomed, it is now their space, so get out.
And there are always sweepings, sprinkling salts and removing it by sweeping it out the front door.
And there are folk beliefs such as removing the old brooms and mops, buying new. You don't want the old problems of the previous residents, and you don't want to take your old problems with you. So get rid of them, and buy new brooms to start with a fresh cleaning.
The post above me is excellent, but I'd like to add: cleanse yourselves too. Make sure that no negative energy is clinging to you. This can be done with a salt bath, or a regular shower including visualization with a specially made body scrub, or any other preferred method. The house and the body are both affected, and therefore both need cleansing. Good luck!
So we've been her a little over a month now energies are calmer, I banished cleansed and protected the home. The smoke detector started going off at the end which I saw as a good sign. When I started the charcoal wouldn't light, then the sage wouldnt light and I had to break it up and put it on charcoal. Lots of stuff was happening and I think the energies were trying to get me to give up. I still have to buy a new broom, kept the one that was in the house, and left my old broom at the old house.