I have an old friend that doesn't consider me a friend now. Our friendship is completely damaged and broken as of last year; we used to be really close about four years ago. I care alot about this friendship since I don't really have that many friends in general and most of my friends are guys. I've been doing reconciliation spells so many times since then but haven't had much luck. I give her space at times and then come back later but all she does is either lash out or I get ignored.I'm also bipolar and this really hits me hard and have long periods of not only depression but also suicidal thoughts;I've been in the hospital twice cause of this. If we still can't be friends in this life, is there a spell out there that can make us friends in the next life or in the spirit world? Thanks
Re: Friend in next life spell By: Personified Moderator / Knowledgeable
Post # 2 May 31, 2017
Unfortunately I think that at the end of the day, you cannot force someone to be your friend (in this life or the theoretical next) who truly doesn't want to be. Getting rejected, especially by someone you still care for that you felt close to, can hurt and I'm sorry you are experiencing that. But in my opinion, it is likely best for both of you if you distance yourself from that person and try to recover.
Perhaps instead of doing that, you can try a honey jar on this friend to sweeten them towards you, or a friendship spell to get a new friend sometime. You also are able to make your own spells. Possibly, this friend was only there for a season, meaning, not all friends will stay until the end. If it's broken then I suggest giving it a lot of time to heal.
As far as I am aware, there are not many spells around that would genuinely help in rebuilding a friendship once it has been severed. It sounds like you have already put a lot of energy and time into trying to repair the issue, but if it is still not being successful then it may be time to consider that there might be a reason why it is not succeeding. And by that I am not in any way referring to judgement about you, your former friend, your skill in magic, or the sincerity of your desires. But something that may be more personally and overall spiritually significant.
If you already recognize the idea of multiple lifetimes/reincarnation, and the ideas of life between lives (for lack of a better term), then maybe take some time exploring the ramifications of those ideas. Such as the transient nature of physical life, and the teaching/learning purpose of incarnation and physical experiences, and the process of balancing and releasing karmic debts. Then, apply those thoughts to the former friendship. It may help you in letting go of what appears to be something that no longer serves you or your friend, and in allowing yourself to work towards moving forward rather than being caught standing in place tied to a self-imposed anchor.
It may very-well be that the two of you already work together from life to life, teaching and learning from each other respectively. It is always possible that in this life, managing change and a measure of loss could be one of the tasks you posed for yourself this time around, and your friend elected to help you with. Or it could be a lesson in letting go of dependence. Or it could be a nudge to meet new people and form new friendships that will better teach you other new things. Or to allow you to meet and become a part of a different group or clique that will help you discover new things about yourself.
Of course it can be a difficult task for many people, and I can not imagine how much more it is for you considering the added challenges you face. But it is worth a try. A shift in perspective, even a tiny one, may help you not only with this current situation but it may help you in the future as well by being a step towards making new mental habits for yourself in the long run.
In the end, it is one of those unfortunate truths of life that as the years go by, people and relationships are going to come and go. We meet people, befriend people, lose touch with a few, meet more new ones, have friends become enemies, sometimes have enemies turn into friends, lose still more, gain more again, and so on. But through each experience you have the chance to gain something from it. Each time you meet someone, it is a chance to learn something. when someone leaves your life, it is also a chance to learn something. Even if that learning is to let go, and to recognize that you have experienced what you were meant to. Perhaps to teach something, perhaps to learn something, or maybe to be given some other opportunity in your life.
And, of course, through it all, it is up to you to decide how you want these events to affect you. You are the one who has the power to make this something you grow from. It can seem like a daunting idea, but it is also empowering. I just hope this helps. ^_^