Hello everyone. I'm a new member here and I don't know much about magic. I've been reading about it and practicing a little though. I'd really appreciate if you would help me. I have a 9 years old sister and she lacks confidence and she's very shy. Sometimes she hides her shyness with aggressive behavior. She doesn't have any friends at school and she's afraid to talk about her opinions. That's why she's becoming more and more depressed. I've tried everything till now to fix this but nothing works out, please help me out with this. I know that my sister is very kind and fun to hang out with if her classmates would get to know her but all of them just turn their backs on her. I'd really appreciate your help :)
You should know more than a little practice and reading before you do anything. Ive always been terrible with ny confidence since i was very little,i didnt use spells i did things out of my comfort zone to bring me out, for me finding my friend is what helped he is a crazy fun person and always helps me be myself. She needs people to tell her what you really think but obviously not bad stuff and not too much that it patronises her. Support is whats needed for now and practise and learn more so you can be able to do a spell maybe.
I agree with everyone above! Visualization is a really good way to go about things, since these are children we're talking about, maybe if she's okay with it a charm like a necklace could help like a little bit of confidence to carry around with her!
I've had bad depression since I was younger, and I've never had a lot of confidence so I know it's hard, but make sure she doesn't bottle it all up, I hope she has people to talk to and I'm happy that she has someone who care so much about her!
Thanks for your advice but then the problem is she's only 9 and it's hard to make her understand that she needs to come out of her comfort zone. She thinks trying to be friends with others means sacrificing her own personality and needs. When she becomes a little friendly with someone she keeps apologizing for the little mistakes she makes and it makes me worried because in future this will let people use and abuse her.
Many thanks. As you said it's children we're talking about and that's what makes things hard. She talks to be about everything and I'm a little relieved that she doesn't keep everything to herself. She's very different when she's around me. But the thing is I'm 8 years older than her that's why the way of her thinking doesn't match her age. She's not interested in many things that kids her age find interesting and I can't force her to blend in.
sadly you can't force her to make friends, nor can you force the other children to be hers. when i was in the 7th grade i moved to a new school [for the 5th time might i add] and i was 18 hours away from any of my friends i grew up with [i went to two different schools, but that was because one closed down, so i had the same group of friends for about 5 years] now i'm at this new school, shy and sad and just want to be alone. on the second or third day there this teacher came up to me and told me to make friends, i said no, so she dragged me over to the nearest group of girls my age and told me they're my new friends and every time i broke away from them she would drag me right back over to them. 16 years later i'm still friends with one of them, and facebook friends with 2 of them. the other 6 in the group bullied me relentlessly for 3 years.
what i would do is convince your sister to join a club or something be it in her school or outside activities [library or sports team] that way she can find a common ground to bond over. it would be nice to have friends her own age, but everyones different. when i got to high school i made friends with kids younger than me, and my best friends as an adult are 3-5 years younger than me. heck, my best male friend was in my younger sisters grade. it's wise to keep an eye on your sister, but some people make friends differently.
regarding a confidence spell, there's a few options but like with the friends your sister has to be willing. you could try a daily chant [some might call them affirmations] to try and subconsciously boost confidence. there's also crystals. carrying/wearing a crystal can effect your energy. so carrying a crystal that has energies for inner strength can also help. there's also less magickal but still helpful things like meditation, balancing chakra's, journaling, even goal setting. [say your sister make the goal to ask to sit with a kid at lunch, or join in if there's a group playing] you could also try a wish spell, say light a yellow candle and visualize your sister making a friend. you could also write the wish on a bay leaf and burn it.
I can't thank you enough. Sharing your story made me relieved a little. Since I've always been able to find someone to hang out with even though I have nothing in common with them I really don't know what to do when it comes to my sister. I've asked her to make few friends now and then but she says that everyone avoids her cause she's not fun to be with since she has the logic and mindset of an adult. I'll try the things you said and I know that eventually something will work :)