Hi, I cast a spell to help someone with their depression without him knowing about it. A with from my family told my I had to write his name 5 times on a purple candle and light it but backwards (sorry english isn't my first language) in a sunny day. The thing is the candle broke after I wrote the name (I really don't know when) and I lit the candle anyway. While it was burning the weather turned cloudy and then it was night. I met with this person the day after and he was feeling better but the day after that and until then (has passed a week) he is sadder :( I don't know what to do. He uses to be like this but I'm afraid I did something wrong.
Honestly i could not help but notice all the symbolism used to construct the spell. This is a beautiful example of beginners practicing magick, and i think i know what may happened. Understand first i have no idea if you have prior experience in magick, but when you use candle magick you hardly need experience anyways and i will explain why this is (to me).
The symbolism is beautiful actually, a purple candle is generally used to help open spiritual awareness and represents the third eye, but what some do not know is people use it to calm the minds of the caster or their targets. Writing his name five time's is also another symbolic meaning, its the number of points on a pentagram, the number of elements associated with each point, and its actually used as an individual representing awareness. Using a person's name is very specific, and to boot you did the spell on a sunny day. The most important thing you did was care, and by caring and thinking about the person, you actually may have created the perfect intent and pushed that thought form into existence. We use spells because they are needed, not just because we can.
As far as what went wrong, i personally would not have used the candle after it broke in half, its a symbolic meaning of having a short span on the spell or having the spell broke before it was fully cast. It could also be your not fully understanding what your were doing, or used a spell on someone who was not aware. I conclude be saying to not use spells that change someone's emotions, especially with good intentions without knowing how they work. Maybe what your friend needs is just a friend, consider alternatives before using magick even with help.
I called my "aunt" and told her about it and she explained to me something similar to what you said. She said that I didn't cause any harm because my intentios were good but if the candle was broken then that's why the spell lasted for a short time. Thank you for your answer, I didn't know about that. I'm new to this but my aunt isn't. She told my I should light a green candle and just think about him.
Really, thank you.
Re: Help with healing cast By: Xailen13 / Beginner
Post # 5 Dec 24, 2018
The symbolism is wonderful in the construction of that spell, and your good intent is more than enough to cast it with or without the rest.
The thing that really needs to be mentioned, however, is that depression is not just feeling sad sometimes. Depression can be caused by a lot of other circumstances surrounding the person, or it could be a chemical imbalance. It's wonderful of you to care and try to help, and sending positive energy is always nice, but you have to understand that depression is not something that can simply magically go away, no matter how hard you wish for it.
I have dealt with depression for the better part of ten years now, and I have found a lot of ways that help me personally to manage it, but it's not something that just goes away becauseI want it to.
The best thing you can do is let your friend know that you are there for him. Invite him out with you and your other friends, invite him to hang out with you. Let him know that you care. Show it, don't just say it. There is nothing wrong with sending positive energy and love either, but if he doesn't know that you're doing any of that or looking out for him, it's not something he can really tangibly think of.
At the end of the day though, depression is a mental disorder, not an emotion. It's wonderful that you want to help him, but he may need to speak to a professional, especially if you think he would ever try to hurt himself or someone else. I have found a lot of things that work to manage mine, but they don't work for everyone. Some people find that medication works better. Others find that therapy is really helpful.
Again, it is really great that you want to help, and you are doing the right thing by being there for him and thinking about him, but this is alsonot on you or your magical ability or the spell you cast if it doesn't magically disappear, simply because that's not how depression works.