My friend and I used to be in a realtionship. He helped me through an abusive realtionship. Back then we rushed things and we both weren't ready for a realtionship. It didn't help that my ex started to harass him.
Months past and we are back to being friends. Well more like friends with benefits. He's told me he still has feelings for me but is afraid to give into them. Mind you we both are in much better places so a realtionship wouldn't be much trouble at all.
Is there a spell to maybe nudge him to give into his feelings for me or persway him? I don't want to force anything...
I think communication would be best in this instance. He's began to open up to you, and has acknowledged his fears. Now the two of you need to talk about those fears. Find out what it is that is holding him back, so that you can address it head on, and relieve him of those fears. Don't rush him, don't press it if he isn't willing to open up, but just gradually keep trying. Give him space when he needs it, but don't isolate him. Let him know you're there for him when he's ready to talk. Once you understand his fears, you can alleviate them if they're in regard to you. From what I've seen in similar cases, his fear is most likely some insecure doubt about something from your past, that once out in the open, you might easily let him know that it isn't something he needs to be afraid of.
I've tried talking with him but it's hard for him to open up. It took forever for him to admit he has feelings for me which im surprised he even did in the first place.
These things take patience. The fact that he did open up likely means that he wants to talk about it. He may just not know quite how to say it. Give him time.
You should try talking in other ways, not face to face. I've found when talking about things like feelings face to face can be hard. So texting can be easier because you aren't right there, even texting in the same room can be easier. Writing letters works. Just try to find other ways of communicating and see if that helps.
