There is no spell to take control over anybody to love you back, you will see many spells claiming it will win the person you desire, and spells like that are most likely to backfire.
There are honey jar spells that are known to sweeten a person and a healing spell to heal your relationship. I would give it time if I were you, they probably need time from you just like you do. You can practice meditation to calm down, not only is it known to gain energy but to calm yourself and bring positive energy in.
Honestly doing a love spell isn't a great idea. As Blue element already said, these types of spells can backfire on a large scale. I've heard things like people going crazy because that had this spell cased on them. Crazy as in going absolutely insane for you and would do anything by any means go get you. This could hurt and possible kill a lot of people and maybe even yourself.
I don't know if all of this is true or not since I've never did a love spell myself, but I really don't think it's a good idea to even combine magik and love in general.
Personally, I do not care what you do, as your life is your own, and I am not going to tell you how to live it, but, I recommend talking with your ex about your feelings and express your desire to get back together. It is also another belief of mine, that Magick cannot force someone to truly love you.
If you believe that you will get a negative backlash from your Magick, then indeed you will. If not, then you'll be fine.
Honestly, if there is no room for discussion, then this is a tall order. Magic can put odds in your favor but cannot do something utterly impossible.
However....if things can change in the near future ...then maybe it can work out.
Casting spells when youre really upset can mess things up. So be aware of that.
A couple of suggestions might be to make a honey jar. this is a hoodoo spell that will sweeten this guys disposition towards you. You can maybe open up lines of communication. Another suggestion would be to look into St Martha. She does wonders...now thats in the voudun tradition and of course Catholic.
Try to break the problem down if you can...getting communication going is the first step. Or I guess getting a hold of your own emotions and stepping back will be the first step...then you can break the problem down from there and come up with a solution.
I can tell you this though, the majority of the solution is going to come from you and your words together with this person. Magic can get the ball rolling, but what happens next is up to you.
For what its worth, I really feel your pain. consider that you are starting a journey with this....you know what the end goal is but youll be surprised along the way.
As far as the whole free will thing goes...peoples free will is changed every day by stuff like advertising. When you convince someone to go out for sushi rather than mexican...yep you changed their free will. Its absurd to use that as an excuse not to help yourself as long as you know what the consequences are. And changing someone from abject hate back to love is going to be impossible or near impossible anyway.
But whatever you do, please please lease dont pay someone to do work for you. They are scamming you, no matter what they say. The are waiting to prey on you in a dark time ...thats what they do....dont pay anyone for a spell.
Yeah, I was really just hoping to get some advice on what to do or some direction on what spells should I try. I'm dirt poor and even if I did have the money, I wouldn't trust anyone enough to do this. The only suggestion I got was the honey jar, which I will hopefully be doing if I can.
I really appreciate everyone's concern but I really care about this guy and I don't want to lose him. I'll give him time. I've been meditating and using all I can during it to bring him back which is leaving me exhausted. Today I got a weird feeling that I NEED to text him but I didn't do it. Way too scared