I need serious help

Adding to what star.child said.
Pamper yourself first with a bath, sexy outfit. anything that makes you feel good. When you are feeling good you look even better. :)

Tuning your chakras is a great idea; sounds to me like you two really need to
communicate though. Time naturally erodes a relationship; work, obligations
and the like tend to take the wind out of our sails. Happens to all of us. Plan
activities you both enjoy together, spice up meals with a romantic touch..
there are many means other than magick to re-ignite that spark!!