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Is love real when some one is under a spell or is it just the spell and not the actual person. I have thought about this since seeing an old episode of Buffy The Vampire Slayer where Warren the leader of the 3 nerds used magic on his ex if you saw it you know what happend this makes those spells almost taboo for me but I also have heard and read that the spell just releases whats already there. Which is true?