My boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me 3 weeks ago. We had a great relationship, not perfect, but we were not in a position where our relationship had to end. I had originally done meditation with a pink candle inscribed with his name and oil- I saw good signs from the candle but no movement from him.
Last night, I did a honey jar. In my petition, I placed balm of gilead, catnip, jasmine, rose petals, and a piece of his hair tied around mine. Followed all directions. I lit a pink candle at the top and it burned GREAT, high flame that danced quite a lot and flickered so I'm hoping for good results. However, the candle left absolutely no wax on the jar lid. It completely burned away. Is this a problem??
Also, while packing things to move out of our apartment (yes, after breaking up with me he asked me to move out), I caved and texted him asking if we could talk- he replied quickly saying he didn't think it was a good idea and he was sorry that he hurt me. I replied just saying I felt like we could work it out, which was a promise we made to each other, and that we both knew our relationship was special. I know I should have waited further into the honey jar and didn't expect to see instant results but it still damn hurt.
Some beliefs about candle omens say that a flame that dances and flickers a lot can indicate the spell might manifest in unexpected ways. It might be a kind of rollercoaster ride to get you two back together. In the mean time, wait for your candle and honey jar spell to work (spells take weeks and months to manifest) and try not to think negatively or doubt your spell, this could disrupt or weaken the energy of the spell.
I recommend you to start over and DO NOT CONTACT him before the spell manifest and he reaches out, asking to be back together. He has to be the one to come to you.