So.. as always, I need help with a lover... but I dont wish to delve into the darker side of magick to win him over. He has shown that he loves and has feelings for me but when everything was fine, great even, he broke it off simply because he wated to be alone or to 'do his own thing' I dont know what to do... i've already talked to him in great length about it, only for it to turn out that theres nothing I can do to change his mind, is there anything you can recommend that I do to alter his opinion, I know that he has feelings for me, but the prospect of a relationship or commitment scares him. But as I have said earlier I dont wish to take his free will away, as this goes against everything I believe in.
You could always do a honey jar spell to sweeten him up to wanting a relationship with you. As far as my knowledge and experience extends, honey jars aren't the "darker side of magic". Sometimes its just best to let someone go their own way in life despite your feelings towards him in the present. It's always possible that your feelings towards him may change and you may meet someone else who makes you happy and is willing to committ to you and treat you how you deserve and make you happy. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
thankyou, how do I do a honey jar spell and I know that I may meet someone else this is why I dont want to take away his free will, also I dont want to damage the ways I practice simply because of one person.
There is an excellent version of the Honey Jar spell at http://www.spellsofmagic.com/spells/love_spells/commitment_spells/17814/page.html
Remember that this spell simply increases the chances that he will be willing to give this relationship another chance. You cannot compelt love to last with any sort of spell, just increase the chances that you will be able to form a lasting attachment. That being said, you will then need to do a lot of hard work with communication and relationship building in order for this to be a lasting thing.
In the end, if this relationship is not meant to be it is far better to let it go before you hurt yourself and him. Best of luck to you!