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In 30 years of practicing I have never had this happen. In the Last 6 months Ive had 2 friends that have passed show up in my dreams.
One friend has come to me 3times. The first time he brought me a very clear message as to why he was there. The next two times he led me to a place were I spoke to a dead relitive.
The second friends reasons for being there isnt clear at all. The first time she showed up she was part of the dream handing me a jacket and loaning me a car. The second time she showed up she hung out with me in the dream.
My questions are these Why now after all these years am i dreaming of the dead? Why are the two expierences so different if both are messangers of some kind?