he doesnt know how I feel about this guy but he does know im not in love with him and that i just have love for him. and this is DEFINITELY more than a crush. A spiritual, soulful connection happened in that bar...something I cannot explain or describe with mere words. I think the waiter felt it too...I know he did...gaaahhhh.
Life is too short to spend in relationships that don't serve. You could die tomorrow - we all could, some of us will. And i'm assuming you don't share children with this current partner, right?
I usually don't give interpersonal advice on this site, but you asked for it so here goes my take (from someone who has been blessed with many amazing partners, who have come and gone into my life): It is ethical to tie up loose ends with your current boyfriend first before moving on to someone new. It is also more energetically clean.
You love your current boyfriend. Give him the gift of a month or more to recreate your dance together: stay together and be happy and make the best out of it, break up and go your separate ways, whatever. Just take care of the situation with him first. I always take a period of me-time after a realtionship: one month of me-time for every year of the old relationship. During this time i do not date or mix my energies with any new potential lovers, if you know what i mean.
Magically, you can take spiritual baths to support you through the transition and to help you make good decisions. Look through my blog listed on my profile - i may have some recipes on there. I also like milk and honey baths to soothe the soul - you can also do milk, honey, and cascarilla powder too for a little more oomph. Do healing spells for him as well, to ease his transition as well. For ongoing work such as this i like those tall glass-encased candles you can get in the Hispanic section of many grocery stores. Fix the candle to heal your relationship or to heal your relationship as you two part ways - light it and pray over it daily. Road-opener work is also amazing for transition times in a person's life. All of the things i mentioned can be googled for more info, of course.
Then, and only then, once you have cut all (most) ties with your current boyfriend, then things may develop with this new guy. And if it's meant to be, it won't be terribly hard.
Hello;
On the Sedona question; I have been there. My advice, go with a tour group (extended Jeep with 3 to 4 seats, like a van). It is kind of expensive (about $30.00 each) but worth it. Take some soothing, new age, music to mellow out in while you're IN the vortex, sitting around, meditating. This worked great for me. That's all.
Re: Guidance is requested By: WhiteRav3n / Knowledgeable
Post # 9 Jul 17, 2011
I agree with Lady Grey.
But I would also like to add that bartenders and servers (waiters/waitresses) are the greatest actors outside of the movies and theater. They will take off their wedding rings, flirt, and then go home to their husband or wife of ten years and three kids. Since they get money from tips, this is their income. They will be your therapist, be your best friend, and anything else you want them to be as long as you keep coming back and tipping them.
Take it from someone who served at restaurants through some highschool years and college! And who's husband is a restaurant manager. It doesn't matter how your day is going, you put on a smile and make your customers happy. The only rule for most who serve the public is, you never give a phone number (some give fake ones) and some even give a nickname instead of their real names.
I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but you need to know that unless a waiter or bartender actually asks YOU out on a date or asks for YOUR phone number, their affection is probably an act. Here is a perfect test, ask them to meet you for coffee outside of the establishment. If they agree and aren't "busy" or suddenly sprout a girlfriend or wife, then you may have found someone authentically interested.
Friendship is a toss up. Some customers of mine were really nice people and I enjoyed speaking to them. I looked forward to them coming in. But not all of them. But I treated them all with the same enthusiasm.
Blessings to you. And stay with your boyfriend. Not everyone can say they have a sweet man who loves them dearly! Consider yourself blessed!
And to all of you reading this, always tip your server well, they only get 3 to 4 dollars an hour! Lol. Bartenders usually get 7 to 9, but it's one hell of a job.
Yes, I also advise against using magic. There are some things that happen naturally, such as love. It should not be tampered with or manipulated by magic. Just see how things work out.
I went to him yesterday to apologize about the poem thing. He was really genuine (thats the vibe I got at least, and my intuition always leads me in the right direction if i listen closely enough). He told me that his girl is really snoopy and found the lyrics in his glovebox. When I tried to apologize, he was like, "sweetheart" and then told me it was okay, and gave me a hug. Then he said (kind of like he meant it too) "keep coming back in here." and I was like, "really?" (dumb thing to say I know. He said yeah. I told him if he knows any one who needs a vocalist to let me know. He said he will. I held out my hand and he shook his head and said softly, "no." Then he held open his arms and gave me a hug. I get the feeling that if he was not in a relationship he might go for it with me. He seems interested, somewhere in his heart of hearts, but tied up. As am I. I did a tarot reading my cards basically told me that there are things that need to be taken care of first before this "seed" can grow. I have faith. If it's Fate, I know it will happen. If not, there is someone better out there for me. Thank you for all your advice.
