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Guidance is requested
By: / Beginner
Post # 1
Okay, I have a dilemma. Part of it is asking for advice on life issues, and part of it is asking for help with what magic to perform.

So my current boyfriend is head-over-heels in love with me. I possess love for him, but am not in love with him.

There is a waiter at this bar literally on the same corner as the cross streets of the house I live in. We met a couple of months ago, and the first time I saw his eyes, time stopped. Literally, it was like I knew he was mine and I was his in that one split second. I talked to him for like 5 minutes and did not see him until a few months later, on Friday night, the night of the full moon. He was working and caught my eye, and immediately came over and was like, "Hey! How are you, it's been a long time!!" and he had a huge smile on his face, and his eyes were all lit up like he was really, really happy to see me. and i said "yeah, it has. what have you been up to?" he said just working. he did not tell me he had a gf when we talked. I gave him a long poem I wrote him that was really deep, and he said "wow, thank you, I'll read it when I get off work." (We started talking literally 10 minutes after the moon turned full, on a friday, the day of love, romance and relationships."

Long story short, his girlfriend texted me and was like, "that man with the gorgeous eyes is my boyfriend. I'd appreciate you NOT hitting on him anymore." that was at 3 am the next morning, after they got off work im assuming.

My question is this: I dont know how I have such strong feelings for someone I have never talked to for more than 10 minutes, but I feel like we were meant to be, not only in my heart, but in my soul as well, I just feel it. Is there any magick I can work to make my current boyfriend find true happiness without me, and bring this man who I feel like I belong to towards me? I don't wanna go back in that bar for like a month, but there has to be something I can do!! Please help, I'm so lost atm and don't know who to turn to. Thank you.
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Re: Guidance is requested
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Post # 2
I would strongly advise against using magick for this issue. Connections like that happen and we get crushes as that is a part of life. However I would tell your boyfriend how you feel and just let the "crush" be. If it's meant to be it will come around slowly but surely. Using magick in this situation will only end in a massive heart ache and a nasty mess. So just let the connection just happen and go with it. It's all you can do for now. However I do push talking to the boyfriend so some feelings can be spared. :)
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Re: Guidance is requested
By: / Beginner
Post # 3
he doesnt know how I feel about this guy but he does know im not in love with him and that i just have love for him. and this is DEFINITELY more than a crush. A spiritual, soulful connection happened in that bar...something I cannot explain or describe with mere words. I think the waiter felt it too...I know he did...gaaahhhh.
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Re: Guidance is requested
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Post # 4
Honestly crushes seem like the real deal but sometimes aren't and again i would just wait it out.
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Re: Guidance is requested
By: / Adept
Post # 5
Life is too short to spend in relationships that don't serve. You could die tomorrow - we all could, some of us will. And i'm assuming you don't share children with this current partner, right?

I usually don't give interpersonal advice on this site, but you asked for it so here goes my take (from someone who has been blessed with many amazing partners, who have come and gone into my life): It is ethical to tie up loose ends with your current boyfriend first before moving on to someone new. It is also more energetically clean.

You love your current boyfriend. Give him the gift of a month or more to recreate your dance together: stay together and be happy and make the best out of it, break up and go your separate ways, whatever. Just take care of the situation with him first. I always take a period of me-time after a realtionship: one month of me-time for every year of the old relationship. During this time i do not date or mix my energies with any new potential lovers, if you know what i mean.

Magically, you can take spiritual baths to support you through the transition and to help you make good decisions. Look through my blog listed on my profile - i may have some recipes on there. I also like milk and honey baths to soothe the soul - you can also do milk, honey, and cascarilla powder too for a little more oomph. Do healing spells for him as well, to ease his transition as well. For ongoing work such as this i like those tall glass-encased candles you can get in the Hispanic section of many grocery stores. Fix the candle to heal your relationship or to heal your relationship as you two part ways - light it and pray over it daily. Road-opener work is also amazing for transition times in a person's life. All of the things i mentioned can be googled for more info, of course.

Then, and only then, once you have cut all (most) ties with your current boyfriend, then things may develop with this new guy. And if it's meant to be, it won't be terribly hard.
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Re: Guidance is requested
By: / Beginner
Post # 6
thank you so much lady gray. I'll do that :). also, I'm going to Sedona to visit the energy vortexes there next weekend. any suggestions?
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Re: Guidance is requested
By: / Beginner
Post # 7
thank you so much lady gray. I'll do that :). also, I'm going to Sedona to visit the energy vortexes there next weekend. any suggestions?
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Re: Guidance is requested
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Post # 8
Hello;
On the Sedona question; I have been there. My advice, go with a tour group (extended Jeep with 3 to 4 seats, like a van). It is kind of expensive (about $30.00 each) but worth it. Take some soothing, new age, music to mellow out in while you're IN the vortex, sitting around, meditating. This worked great for me. That's all.
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Re: Guidance is requested
By: / Knowledgeable
Post # 9
I agree with Lady Grey.

But I would also like to add that bartenders and servers (waiters/waitresses) are the greatest actors outside of the movies and theater. They will take off their wedding rings, flirt, and then go home to their husband or wife of ten years and three kids. Since they get money from tips, this is their income. They will be your therapist, be your best friend, and anything else you want them to be as long as you keep coming back and tipping them.

Take it from someone who served at restaurants through some highschool years and college! And who's husband is a restaurant manager. It doesn't matter how your day is going, you put on a smile and make your customers happy. The only rule for most who serve the public is, you never give a phone number (some give fake ones) and some even give a nickname instead of their real names.

I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but you need to know that unless a waiter or bartender actually asks YOU out on a date or asks for YOUR phone number, their affection is probably an act. Here is a perfect test, ask them to meet you for coffee outside of the establishment. If they agree and aren't "busy" or suddenly sprout a girlfriend or wife, then you may have found someone authentically interested.

Friendship is a toss up. Some customers of mine were really nice people and I enjoyed speaking to them. I looked forward to them coming in. But not all of them. But I treated them all with the same enthusiasm.

Blessings to you. And stay with your boyfriend. Not everyone can say they have a sweet man who loves them dearly! Consider yourself blessed!

And to all of you reading this, always tip your server well, they only get 3 to 4 dollars an hour! Lol. Bartenders usually get 7 to 9, but it's one hell of a job.
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Re: Guidance is requested
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Post # 10
Yes, I also advise against using magic. There are some things that happen naturally, such as love. It should not be tampered with or manipulated by magic. Just see how things work out.
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