Re: Need a spell cast for me
By: WhiteRav3n / Knowledgeable Dec 02, 2011
Post # 2
You have free will. Unless you are literally inprisoned, you are never "forced" to do anything or take abuse from someone. If it is at work, you can change jobs. If it is family or friends, you can move on. If it is significant other, you can separate. Communication is the first course of action. If that doesn't work, you need to to remove yourself.
You're not going to find a quick fix. I know it is easier to think that a spell can correct a problem, but that is only a hopeless hope. It is an easy way out instead of doing the hard work it takes to be an independent person and make difficult decisions for your well being.
I'm not talking about something I don't personally understand. I have made very difficult decisions in my life, having to let go of people I deeply cared for because they were harming my well being. I was living financially secure too, and I chose a rougher road for the better of me. This is a time to weigh what really matters in your life. If people treat you disrespectfully, they deserve no respect or courtesy in return. Walking away doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a smart one.
I may not have all the money in the world, and only a handful of people in my life that I truly care about, but at least I know they truly care about me, and I can look in the mirror and say "I'm happy" and mean it. And that my dear, is priceless.
Re: Need a spell cast for me
By: Birdlover101 / Beginner Dec 02, 2011
Post # 3
Oh, and if your under the age of eighteen there are people you can talk to. I was in an abusive situation for years. Teachers, Counselors, C.P.S they can all help. Just make sure you write everything down and keep it in a safe place where nobody can find it. Then, when the time comes you can pile up all your evidence and take it to someone. Be sure to remember, dates, times, and such. Also, if your an adult, try saving up money little by little. You can save up change from the grocery store that you get back, or just anything like that. Don't take the abuse, just leave if you can. there are safe places you can go, like shelters for people who have been abused and such. You don't have to take what this person is dishing out to you. Just make sure he's gone for a few hours, or possibly days when you leave so you have time to pack and go. Also, don't mention anything to any of this person's friends if you can avoid it. I know abusive men can be very convincing at assuring people there is nothing wrong. Remember, they have no right to treat you that way, so just leave if you don't like it. Find somewhere that you feel safe and whatever you do don't let him convince you to go back. Do whatever you have to stay safe and remember, someone who truly cares about you wouldn't treat you like this.