Hello I need private help and I do not know where to turn. I have always tried to be one with nature and live in the now and I practice magic once in a while for cleansing and positivity. I am going through a crisis with my love, he had an abusive childhood and abusive marriage. He feels unworthy of me and broken and is experiencing feelings of being trapped and panic. His ex still controls aspects of his life because they have 2 kids so she is a dagger in his side that twists often and it seems to be this time of year he has a struggle. I need help, I need an experienced witch who can help me with his negativity. He loves me and doesn't want to lose me but he wants to not burden me and feels he needs to runaway. I cannot afford to pay for services as well as you never know when it is a scam and so I felt I should reach out to this community and see if anyone can help. The kids just started calling me mom, their mom is a basket case and losing me I am sure would affect them greatly...this is not just a breakup and we can get back together later.. this is a burning of a bridge and cause of serious damage. I feel so helpless and staying positive and just trying to express support to him. Cleansing our home and making charms to ward of negative things isn't working. I am not strong enough or knowledgeable enough to cast anything.
Re: I need help
By: wiccanery / Beginner Sep 20, 2017
Post # 2
I'm sorry to say this but most people won't cast spells for others.
I think your best shot, rather than saying you're not powerful enough, is to start to trust yourself and do something while believing entirely that you can do it and that you are powerful enough, because that's the most important thing.
You can try sigils, creating your own spells (there are a few guides and tutorials here that can help with that) and whatever comes to mind to help it work!
I would also recommend you get your partner professional help. It sounds to me like he might need professional councilling or therapy, which can be a much better tool in these circumstances than magic.
Re: I need help
By: prsona / Knowledgeable Sep 20, 2017
Post # 5
I have to agree wit Dataexpunged. It sounds like his past and the external (to your relationship with him) circumstances are affecting him deeply. I would venture to say it could easily be severe depression.
Whether my very unprofessional internet indirect guess is right does not matter. Here is what does matter: Nothing in his circumstance will improve, and running away will make it keep getting worse. He needs to face it. More importantly, he needs to face himself.
A sneaky way to help this is to have couples counseling. Call in advance and tell the doctor some of the circumstances, and that you believe this aspect of his life needs to be improved. Any professional who is worth their salt can at the very least be understanding, and can offer better help. But it may be much easier if he does not go alone.