I agree with H2O. Having been in a situation myself where I wanted to be with somebody (and he me at one point) we both tried resorting to spellwork for comically tragic results.
From this, I was able to grow and learn as a person, adapt, and I was able to find another happy and healthy relationship outside of my first. I took the time to reflect on myself, and respect James' perspective, his life, and honor him by growing from my past, rather than consistently tearing myself up over it.
My personal lesson was that of lack of commitment: I was scared. I gained self confidence and so far have been able to hold a 2 year comitted relationship after him.
Maybe you need t take some time to reflect off yours?