Just wanting to give a little bit of an update: So today I decided to do the mirror box (took a while to find mirrors oddly enough) and followed one set of guidelines I found online where you put something of hers (all I have is her picture) and herbs to keep her away. I decided, probably incorrectly, that while I was doing it I could add in some binding work. Lit the black candle, made the box which is difficult to do without looking, then placed it in the middle of a pentagram of black candles. They were just simple birthday candles - I've used them dozens of times before.
Then it got a bit weird. The flames grew to almost 4 inches tall and began crackling. It almost seemed like the candles were fighting against what was happening. When the candles died down in about half the time they normally take, I went outside and buried it where all my old pets are (thought about it and I trust them more than random people at the cemetery, not to mention it seems a bit disrespectful to me but that's just my opinion)then came back inside. Walking in, I could see my vinegar jar's candle was going crazy. The flame actually turned white. Vinegar started popping out from under the lid. Had to take it outside to make sure that if it exploded, at least it wouldn't be everywhere. The candle died down in the span of 20 minutes as opposed to the usual two hours it takes. Broke off all the wax sealing it in.
I'm assuming the mirror box had something to do with the jar. Just seems a bit too much for it to be a coincidence. I'll have to start a new jar tomorrow.
And I've been doing the cleansing too. My house smells wonderful.