Please, if you have a question, create your own thread / post. It's unfair to the original poster, when you hijack theirs.
For the original question -- you should always perform your own rituals. I have very little faith in psychics, and I doubt the one performed for you was actually legit.
Supposed "soul mates" aside, there sounds to be a lot more than just pride, within your bitter fight.
There are a numbers of ways to handle this, but first, what started this fight must be resolved first.
~ Never Lost