Imagine a ball. This ball is perfectly round and solid and spins and rolls and is completely and totally a ball. Now, take a bite out of it. It may still be a ball, but now it spins funny. It doesn't roll right. No matter what you do to it, it is not a perfectly functional ball.
This is what happens when you mess with love. Love is a perfect power. It is what it is and can never be altered or it no longer rolls correctly. Too many people try to short-cut love, to manipulate it, to force its hand. When they do this, they are taking a bite out of the ball. Please, take the advice of this old man when I say let love be and it will roll into your life when it is time.