I was in an abusive relationship and I wanted to curse the person under a fit of rage, but chose not to do so. Now that my mind is clear and no longer clouded, I want to put a curse on this person, only to teach them a lesson. I want them to regret ever saying the things they said and harming me the way they did. This person left me for another person and was very abusive and betrayed me. I want him to experience the same pain and repent for hurting me like no other. I want to return the pain he's caused me. I know that casting curses will come back three fold but I also know there are ways of cleansing yourself after doing badwork. Any tips? This is something I'm not taking lightly and have been researching for quite some years in case somebody has hurt me badly enough to come to this point. I've done love spells, tried fixing things with this person, tried getting my things back from this person. All of my positive intent has backfired on me and made this person even more abusive towards me and I feel like the only way I can get the broken pieces of myself back is to return the pain this person has caused me. I intend to undo the curses as soon as this person comes to their senses and do not plan on letting this get over my head and go overboard with the curses.
A minor point, - you may curse the person, and be safe, and all kinds of things may happen. However, how are they going to understand that this is because of their actions towards you, thus learning the lesson you wish them to learn?
What I mean is I want them to feel and experience the pain and betrayal they have bestowed upon me. This isn't over a petty matter or simple rude words, but emotionally and physically abusive ways. This person seems to be happy that they have hurt me and I want the person they are involved with to see their true colors so they see for themselves to not get involved with this person, even if the curse involves quarreling and chaos.
There are karma spells but messing with the karmic balance isn't something to be taken lightly if you believe in karma of course, though most do even if it isn't religious based as they believe what goes around comes around which to me is the same as karma just not connected to past lives as which is something I don't personally believe in. In essence you would be having done unto them as they have done unto you, but per beliefs like the threefold law you could receive a form of backlash for casting a curse. I can understand your feelings and whatever your decision/actions I wish you luck in life though as others have said my advice is to deal with things the unmagickal way.
I decided against continuing the curse works with my ex. He has since come back to me to repent for all the wrongdoing he's done to me, and I have since done everything to reverse the black cloud I have casted upon him. My plan worked all along and now I just want to destroy the curse I have casted upon him.