I hope this isn't seen as a hijack, but perhaps the content is relevant enough to the original post.
As my father's coffin was being wheeled down the aisle of the church, there were four, male pall-bearers, two either side, and a female following behind.
At the wake, several hours later, my sister-in-law remarked that she had never seen a female pall-bearer before (this was the early 80's) and I agreed that it was a first for me as well. Yet she and I were the only ones to have witnessed this. Even my aunt (my late father's sister) who was herself psychic, had no recollection of having seen this woman, yet everyone concurred there had been four males.
We concluded this had been the apparition of my father's first wife, who had died young.