Realize that most of my life you devote to others - is not easy. Perhaps you once told that to live for yourself - it is bad. Were you told that to be selfish - unworthy. What is women's share - to be for someone. Perhaps you took a cue from his mother or someone else very authoritative.
Do you want to - believe these instructions, you want - no. The main thing - how do you live with such a philosophy? Be honest. And if life is not comfortable (but a man can not be comfortable in someone else's life) - think about it.
You can begin to live not only foreign interests but their own. Worry not only about the mistakes of others, but to make your own. Make mistakes, though risky, but more interesting than other people's lament. At any age. Of course, you can come up with a lot of objective reasons not to start to do that.
Or you can make a different choice. I know eighty old women walking out on dates. I know grandparents who decided to go to aerobics. Mom going to the disco with her daughters - not in order to control, but to dance. And I know girls, aged to adulthood.
You can start to pick out yourself from wherever you find yourself once pushed. Yes, this is exactly the place that you think)))