I am in love with a woman who wishes to have the same "gifts" as I have as to get a better understanding of me. I am extremely pathic and it hurts me to see her confused. Does anyone know how to share my abilities(curse) with her?
By pathic do you mean empathetic? This is just an intuitive understanding of another's mind/mood, and being able to put yourself in their shoes. What you do with your ability to perceive such things is up to you. If you let it get to you, it will get to you.
In terms of your partner, you needn't fret about it. Point her in the direction of some decent literature. Meditation techniques, developing intuition, empathy, etc. Everyone has these "gifts." Work with her, play at exploring what one another is feeling/thinking. It will help her develop these qualities and bring you two closer together.
I think you might have meant "empathic". Empathetic is an intuitive understanding of people's emotions. Empathic is a magickal ability to feel the emotions of others. Subtle difference, but that's how I've always defined the words.
If your lady love wants to learn magick, she should learn. Everyone has gifts. Everyone has magick. No one can give them to her, she will have to learn them for herself. It is something you two could learn together if you wanted.
As far as psychic vampirism...it's something anyone can learn to do. All it is is draining energy from another person. You don't have to be energy deficient to learn to do that, but it helps.
If she wants to learn this stuff, she should look into it herself. I am happy to teach people, been doing it a while. She should make her own account here and either learn on her own or find a teacher. If she genuinely wants to learn magick, that is what she should do.