I have no idea what my element is.
I love swimming, I'd prefer not to recycle just more work...
I rush outside when my dad is having a fire. I like dark rainy days I am not confident 1%, I adore wind I am as hot as a flame all the time. I am feared by my friends, I am cherished by others. I love magick I have a love in my life and a love FOR life I love video games that are violent an usually don't end in a shower of---never mind.
You can find your element by connecting with each and seeing which ones you have the strongest connection with. It is ideal not to ignore or dislike any of the elements, though it helps to identify which ones you work best with.
Try a meditation technique and evoke each element, see how you respond to one another, and then go from there.