He stopped me to go to college when I finished highschool,he stopped me to do whant I love the most, he always say that I am stupid and good for nothing
Dear one, you are beautifully Divine! Realize that no one can take away your power. Don't be afraid to put your foot down. Get a restraining order. Take a day off and go into nature, even if it's just a park. Have someone there with you when you break up with him, a cop, a friend, or even if it's a caring soul you just met. I bet you could talk to someone at a church, Buddhist center, etc. Maybe take some self defense or martial arts classes if you really feel unsafe.
This will be resolved, rest assured. Just the fact that you reached out is huge. You can do this! I'm rooting for you. Much love
There is only two outs to that, that I see. The escape: tell the police and make sure that you tell them that he will get angry, most likely they won't do enough. So you would have to run away really far while he is gone. The other way, is an obvious option when you come to this site. The magical change: magic is a scarce thing that is rarely used or even believed in. There is a good amount of spells useful for this situation. Mind Bending, change the pattern that energy flow through the brain to change the paths that his frontal lobe reaction to make him change his behavior and go away. There is the void banishment, banish his into a void that makes him occur somewhere else on this planet, of which I have only heard of, never even found a casting instructions for it. And final one in my knowledge, the trants you could send him into a trants and command him to move away and he will safely move away and never queston why or how it happened after the trants wears off. I wish you the best.
Hey Izabelle, first of all I want to say I'm really sorry that this is happening for you, second I want to say that this is not your only chance, and you shouldn't give up hope.
My tip would be to strengthen bonds with other people, distance yourself from him as much as possible.
You can definitely use magic as a tool to help you with this, even small things help like chants, energy work, sigils, protection magic. A lot of it can be done discreetly. But you shouldn't rely on magic to get you through this, what can get you through is yourself and the people who care about you.
Getting out of a relationship can be hard, and confusing when you've been in one for so long. But you do need out.
I also suggest reaching out to organizations that could help you, maybe a counselling service. They can give you resources, a safe place to be, etc. It's worth a try.
Find strength in real love, self confidence, don't be afraid to rely a bit on others. Your safety is what matters most.
I also suggest if you can do it safely, read the book "Why Does He Do That?", it helped me personally a lot. I have a pdf I can send to anyone who would like to read it, just mail me.
Ok,everyone i will tell you the story. I feel stupid as i look in the past and ask myself why i didn't leave sooner. Yes,i could do it but i didn't because i tought that he will change. He knows what hurts me and he attacks me when he wants something. Like money. Money got his life.he is happy when his pockets are full and so angry when the money "dissapear". He never say that he does with them.Most of my paycheck is for him,If not I will get in trouble. He cheated on me several times. He doesn't le me break up! Nobody knows what i'm going trought ,my parents are old and sick,only a friend knows. Please understand that in my country,authorities are doing nothing believe me. I have no chance. I care about him dough,I feel that he is not a bad person but i don't know what happened to him and dough i talked to him and told him this is not ok and money is not everything in this life he gets angry. I can't take it anymore. I feel lost. I feel like Our relationship is over for long time ago but I cannot break up forever because he is harrasing me and saying bad words to me etc. I want to say a huge big THANK YOU to everyone. Thank you for your kind words. Thank you that you are there for me! It feels heartwarming.
I've found that when you stand up to people like this they sometimes back down, but not always. If I were you I would use both magic and real world solutions. You can change your locks, have defensive weapons close by to your door and other rooms so you always have an option, don't be afraid to call for help and let him know you are doing it. You can have your friend stay with you at certain times when you think he might show up or at night with you. Now with magic, you could try to find spells that will help you find the right way to deal with him, give you the confidence you need and strength. There are a lot of spells on here that could help you in different areas and when put together could boost your confidence to get what you want. You are not alone! There are So Many people on here who will help you!! If you want to talk or want help with anything please message me!!
Take advice on this posts very cautiously, there are many people suggesting things without experience. If you don't feel safe or that going to the police is safe right now, when you get some time to yourself call this number: 1-800-799-7233(SAFE)
This numbers is to The National Domestic Abuse Helpline. They can actually help you put together a safe leave plan and all kinds of advice. Please do this as soon as you get a chance.
I'm willing to learn. Keeping distance of him is not good.it's getting him angry. Anything i do makes him angry. I don't know If You all believe me,i'm not exagerating.
I have no friends. I don't believe in people anymore. Working with animals makes me happy and calm. I cannot do it because of him. Complicated,right? It's like invisible handcuffs..
