yea i would try a honey jar, but i would also try divorce, separation, or move out. [if you want spells with those you can try a banishing, a spell to help with legal matters, a spell to find a home, a job spell if you need it] it's noble of you to stay together for your daughter, but trust me it's better in the long run. i was around 11 when my parents separated [their marital problems began when i was 9] and i dealt with a lot that bothered me for years. yes i was upset when we moved far away and my dad stopped visiting, but 17 years later i know it was for the best and my life is far better. i'm not saying you have to move as far as we did [my parents lived somewhere with no real job opportunities and my moms family was a provence away] your daughter can sense the tension, she can hear the fights, trust me. many feel two parents would be best for a child, but thats only the case in loving situations, if you can't even find a compromise with your husband, it's best for everyone if the two of you separate. [harsh as that sounds. your daughter might eve begin to believe this is how marriage works, how you should be treated, and that you should just accept the emotional abuse]
the honey jar should soften the situation and help you sit down and talk, but carrying on like this isn't good for you or your daughter despite how you may think. it'll hurt, and be hard, but you need to ask yourself do you deserve this? i wish you all the best, and the best solution for all involved.