Try sending a prayer to the Angel of Lost Things.
Just ''the Angel of Lost Things'' is enough, though if you need names, call it Chamuel.
A heartfelt prayer, perhaps while gazing into a candle, to engage a light trance. Blow the candle out, inhale the smokes, and forget about it.
Seriously, forget about the ritual, the person, everything. The magic will do its work, as long as you forget about the ritual. Ground yourself.