Gandhi was once quoted as saying 'Be the change that you wish to see in the world.' i feel this situation could benefit from that sentiment.
no this site isn't perfect, and yes there is a lot of fluff, but complaining won't fix the issue. you want this to be a site for real magick [which it is, most new members just believe what they saw in popular culture] then go out and teach. talk in the forums, join a coven, offer one on one teaching [not the wisest move to teach magick online but still an option] or use the chat as a weekly meeting for sessions, or even circles. complaining is the easy answer. yes, the squeaky wheel gets the grease, but do you know how many people have said 'there's a lot of fluff'? it's not going to change. there's a bunch of reasons why the fantasy spells will remain, the biggest is they bring traffic to the site, ad revenue then keeps it free for all.
regarding sarcastic mods, who are you talking about exactly? most mods online today are quite nice. [its when you prove yourself stubborn some may respond with a hard handed reply] i do welcome you and hope you use this opportunity to grow the community. i've been a member for years [i found the site around 2004-2005 and lurked for a year or two before posting] i've seen some highs and lows, and right now it's running really well. you get your 'i'm a mermaid/elf/werebunny' people, but it's nowhere near as bad. and as for the mods, while there are some i miss i know of a few who threatened to gag me for not conforming and i'm over the moon they're gone, so the occasional tough love response is nothing in my book.