Everyone has to learn this the hard way, don't they?
Love spells aren't a good idea. Especially, if you are having to ask for advice. This means, you don't know what you are doing. Any magick that deals with other people's emotions isn't a smart thing to mess with as a newbie. It can go horribly wrong. Plus, how would you like someone to interfere with your free will? This is kind of up there with cursing someone. Its harming someone emotionally.
Now if you want help to cast a general love spell to bring in a new relationship or even to cast a spell to help you move on and get over this ex, many of us would be happy to help there.