I want to reverse something stupid I did to cause negative feelings in another person that is impaction a very delicate situation. I need to repair this relationship in order to get my granddaughter back. We have been taking care of her full time since August because my daughter was incarcerated (still is) . Her father agreed to let us do this because he is really incapable of doing that right now. He doesnt visit her very much and is very secretive but this Christmas he came and has taken her away. I slipped a tracking device in her bag and he found it and now is threatening not to bring her back. We are so scared. I talked with her on the phone yesterday and she just wailed and called out Grandma! Please help. That is the first time I've heard her voice since the day after Christmas. He said his phone is broken and wont have a new one for awhile.
Its not as sinister as it sounds. We know basically where she is and we dont think he is harming her. He is insulted that we would put this tracking device in her bag and is now changing his mind over letting us take care of her. We feel helpless as grandparents and know if we start a CPS fight it could really damage our ability to be part of our granddaughters life. We couldnt prove he's been abusive or any reason why he shouldnt have her other than he's immature, drinks, smokes pot and is generally acting like any young person and we feel our granddaughter is safer with us. I dont think thats enough but we also know she loves being with us and misses us which was obvious from our phone call. I thought if there was a spell that would give him a nudge in the direction of forgiving me for wanting to track her and maybe realize it was out of Love for his daughter. She is only 2 and a half.
cps gave him a drug test and he did test positive for POT. They asked him to come back and take it again! He lives in another state so he left her with us and came back a few weeks later and took another drug test. We dont know what the results were but he said it was ok and that he still wanted us to take care of our granddaughter so I dont know if he failed again and is hiding that fact or what. I'm nervous about opening up that can of worms until I have to. I will but wanted to try some gentle nudging so as not to damage this delicate situation. Our granddaughter needs her parents in her life and needs everyone to get along.
Re: need recommendation
By: Winchester1 / Novice Jan 01, 2016
Post # 7
I'm sorry to say but pot smoking is not longer viwed much of a crime in America,more and more states have legalized it
Even here in New york where I live it's not legal but the mayor ordered The cops to stop making arrests for weed since the Prison are overcrowded,if he has a Job the courts will always go with the parent if the parent is willing and the child is in safe hands
If he happens to be on harder drugs,becomes destitute or is abusive you have a great chance.
Re: need recommendation
By: war_angel Jan 01, 2016
Post # 9
Applej, the reason no one has written or even suggested by kind of magic or spells is that magic is not something that can solve everything and shouldn't be believed to solve everything, that's just arrogance. Your situation isn't one where magic is needed, but something you need to learn to get through and do something about it, I'm not saying that magic won't help, but that it won't be the main help you get if you do something. People on this sight have already given suggestions to help you out.