Some people just flee to magic for everything and it really is not right, in my opinion. There are instances that cannot be controlled, like help getting a job, etc, and that can be understood. However, magic won't change your gender, turn you into a physical animal, or kill someone you hate with a meteorite. Think over what you want to happen and try to take some incentive. Like, instead of asking everyone around for a love potion (this happens a lot for me) to give to some guy you have never interacted with, try talking to him. Instead of a spell doing something, why not try doing it yourself first?
I think it depends on how people view magick and what they believe it will do for them...
I know for me it is extremely rare if I perform a spell unless I believe it will grant me clarity, strength, or an 'armor' to handle a situation head on. In the end I am still taking physical action in my day to day life. I may use a candle spell , or something along those lines, to help me through tougher trials.
I do, agree, that trying something out first naturally is a more reliant method as there is magick in that too :)