I married a wonderful man last February. who is the love of my life the only problem is his ex wife keeps hanging around. She sent him a text that said I live you babe see you when I get up he responded I live you too when I asked he said he always will love her because she is the mother of one if his children. This is putting a strang in our relationship. I want her to leave him along and go away move away stop hanging around what can I do to make her go away he said he is in love with me
It sounds to me like he is still "in" love with her. This isn't to be confused with the "I'll always love her because she's the the mother of my children" type of love. This is a problem that, If I were you, would leave magick out of. I'd sit down and talk to him seriously about it. Lay down the law. Ask him how he feels about her and what he wants out of his relationship to you. I'm sorry to hear about your problems btw.
You can talk to your husband and tell him,this:
I know you love her but now,I'm married to u.I should be the only woman you think about or if you really love your ex wife please don't tell it to me!I know she WAS your wife but now,I'm your wife,so finish this because you are ruining everything.
Easy,and no need for magic .
Re: Please help
By: ZetaStorm / Novice Dec 29, 2014
Post # 4
You need a good heart to heart conversation with him as magic is not going to fix this in the way you would want it to.
Magic can interfere and cause added complications for you. For instance, it can backfire and hurt the mother seriously and then what's left for the child? If she moves away, will your husband grieve to see the child? Will the child come to live with you guys? Getting rid of the mother does not seem to be the solution. Your husband holds the key to fixing this problem. No one else. He is married to YOU now and should bear allegiance to THIS marriage. Do not forget however that is still a father and that his children deserves a rightful place in his life, so it does require some communication and contact with the mother of the children and he needs to establish boundaries of what should and should not happen.
Another worrying thing. You said he told you that he loves her because she is the mother of ONE of his children. What about the other children? Does he love their mother also? That he texts her back "I love you too" in response to "I love you babe" suggests that he is fine with the "babe" part and that can mean something more than just a platonic relationship (it is fine if he loves her on a platonic level) but he has to mean it that way else you will end up broken hearted if and when he decides to do something with her for "old times sake" and "because he is familiar because she is his child's mother" . So sit him down and find a reasonable compromise. The workable solution will be that each of you sacrifices something and not one person getting their way entirely and the other being left feeling as if no progress has been made at all.
If he is not willing to address your issues, then he may not be all that wonderful and you will have a tough decision to make regarding the love of your life.
Im really sorry for the problem youre in, but i agree... magick seems too much a risk... try talking- i know it seems like it wont help... but trust me follow your gut... and maybe not scare off her... but set some lines
remember- you are with him like an agreement. a promise. that above all he loves you. he can love her... but you are a stronger bond... he picked you once... clear your eyes and find out if it still is so... if not... im sorry but youll have to fight
Re: Please help
By: Nekoshema / Novice Dec 30, 2014
Post # 9
You could cast a spell to make her leave, but I don't think that's wise as she is the mother of his child and you would send the child away too.
It's best to talk about it. There are many types of love, it doesn't automatically mean he's going to leave you. I would first come to terms with your anxiety, and sit them down to talk. First you and your husband than the three of you. There are many ways to live and it seems your life will include her. If these issues cannot be resolved, you might consider moving on, but look into all options first.