Backfires are a personal belief, everyone, and so is the violation of free will, so stop stating them as if they were facts, learn to be more aware of facts and opinions.
To Fairy, you MUST learn the basics to magick before attempting any spells or anything that involves magick. I am sorry to tell you this, but you have to take the time and effort to learn what you are doing before it will work, like everyone else. Magick is not a game as it is a tool that should never be taken lightly by any practitioner. Magick is not a quick-fix to problems in your life, and there are limits. Magick takes time, focus, belief, knowledge, confidence, and experience.